I have a quick question on probably something really simple. I got a HBs # last week and just called her, her roomate answered the phone and said she wasnt there. I told her to tell HB that "4afe, the really cute guy from ----- called" . If HB never calls back should I just leave it at that, and move to the next HB? or try again in like a week (probably the afc way)?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
HB's Roomate answers
- Thread starter 4afe
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
.diablo
Master Don Juan
Not really. You've got no way of knowing if her roommate even remembered to give her the message. Try again, if her roommate answers and does the same routine just say you'll call back later as stated by ScrewIt - don't give out your name; she's got no way of knowing who you are. If the girl does answer, then proceed as you normally would...
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
JazzPimpNYC
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"Another desperate, self-important guy looking for validation"