"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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HB7-8 messing with my head at work?

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I am 31, she is 21 and we work in a small environment. I am full time and she is part-time and we don't work in the same department.

Girl has been flirty since day one. However, I did not see her much and would only talk to her in passing. One day she asked me to go on break with her one day and I sort of asked her out. She told me she has a b/f.

Fast forward a few weeks later and now we are e-mailing each other.

She compliments me all of the time (Tall, dark and handsome etc), told her mom about me and even stopped upstairs to see me on her day off (she had to pick something up at work) the other day.

The other day she told me to stop by downstairs before I left to see how nice she looks.


THe thing is.......being a guy I am the MINORITY in the workplace and really the only decent looking guy in the place. My gut tells me she is just using me as an ego boost or maybe it makes her feel good than an older guy at work is flirting with her. The thing is though, she flirts more than I do.

What do you guys think?

It sucks because I am very attracted to her and I think about her all of the time (onenites)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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devils3777 said:
I am 31, she is 21 and we work in a small environment. I am full time and she is part-time and we don't work in the same department.

Girl has been flirty since day one. However, I did not see her much and would only talk to her in passing. One day she asked me to go on break with her one day and I sort of asked her out. She told me she has a b/f.

Fast forward a few weeks later and now we are e-mailing each other.

She compliments me all of the time (Tall, dark and handsome etc), told her mom about me and even stopped upstairs to see me on her day off (she had to pick something up at work) the other day.

The other day she told me to stop by downstairs before I left to see how nice she looks.


THe thing is.......being a guy I am the MINORITY in the workplace and really the only decent looking guy in the place. My gut tells me she is just using me as an ego boost or maybe it makes her feel good than an older guy at work is flirting with her. The thing is though, she flirts more than I do.

What do you guys think?

It sucks because I am very attracted to her and I think about her all of the time (onenites)
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aye, been in this situation many times. All i can say is, just keep leading her on.. don't make the first move.

You need to beat her at her own game. make sexual innuendos, tease her but don't make a move. Don't listen to these guys here saying "oh she's gona think you are gay if you don't make a move soon"

Trust me, SHE will make the move..its just a matter of time

Guys are in the eastern time zone in terms of sex and women are in the pacific time zone.
 
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Yeah, but I think it is all fake or her boyfriend does not give her enough attention, who the hell knows.

People already think there is stuff going on between us because she said her co-workers downstairs whisper when they see us together.

I work in a small 30 person enviroment that is made up mostly of middle aged women. These women love any gossip...
 
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ey, thats great if people think something is going on between you guys. You are being ADVERTISED and others in the workplace will follow the train soon.

So yeah, DONT make the first move but keep teasing, making sexual innuendos and she will cave in
 
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i think thats the best weapon against Attention wh0res. U know what, i'd say 1 out of every 10 are attention *****s
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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verysuave said:
ey, thats great if people think something is going on between you guys. You are being ADVERTISED and others in the workplace will follow the train soon.

So yeah, DONT make the first move but keep teasing, making sexual innuendos and she will cave in
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Yeah, but you have to realize THIS IS MY CAREER, not some job I don't care about. Most other people tell me I should stay clear of this girl like the plague.
 
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i caved into an attention wh0re as i have previously posted here (my first time ever just to try it out and i DIDNT get the number)

But seriously, women will LET YOU KNOW if they want you.
 
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just get her number the day she quits BUT she might turn cold by then (whenever that is)

or

just leave her alone
 
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You are on your own here. U should know the pros and cons by now. or just use her for ego boost =))))
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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