You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Seems like a great strategy. While Europe is "trolling" Russia with f@ggots, Russia is taking over Europe one country at a time!Jaylan said:Plus Im sure the EU is trying to troll Russia given their intolerance of non-hetero folk.
Well said.Bokanovsky said:Seems like a great strategy. While Europe is "trolling" Russia with f@ggots, Russia is taking over Europe one country at a time!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
" Intolerance"Jaylan said:The world is changing. Plus Im sure the EU is trying to troll Russia given their intolerance of non-hetero folk.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
:crackup: t!ts is back in full force.( . )( . ) said:^Pffft this coming from the peanut who makes it "his" mission to remind us all how evil those straight white males are (extra points if they're Christian). Your phoney nonchalance and "live and let live" attitude is noted.
A confused person, is a fearful person. A fearful person is easy to control. Not sure why they want to.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Right.
I am all for live and let live but there is and has been a concerted agenda here.
Welcome back btw
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.