"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Weirdest encounter ever recently.

Hooked up with very attractive 28 yr old girl last weekend. Same night lay, was superb that night. She ended up crashing in my bed. The next morning we went at it again - midway through round 2 she got on top and proceeded to cover my eyes with her hands. I pulled them off and she said "noo don't look at me." Now I'm no psychologist but wtf? This girl had a bangin' body, no reason to be self conscious. Any thoughts?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Sex abuse victim/nutcase.

My ex did the same thing. She'd put her hands over my eyes too. Or sometimes a pillow which was really weird. I had forgotten about that amongst the other 100 red flags...
 

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You're over thinking this. Odds are since it was morning after a long night, she simply did not want you seeing her face with the makeup and everything else not looking on point. Not unusual for a woman you just met to think this way.
 

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All women are self-conscious. It has nothing to do with how good they look. The night before, I'm guessing it was dark while you fvcked and she'd had a drink or two.
 

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Her: "Don't look at me." Covers your eyes.

You: "Now, if you could plug my nose too, we are set!"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Malcontent said:
Sex abuse victim/nutcase.

My ex did the same thing. She'd put her hands over my eyes too. Or sometimes a pillow which was really weird. I had forgotten about that amongst the other 100 red flags...
Lmao a pillow, she tried to do that too but I held her arms behind her back. Crazy. Probably won't see her for a while but what kind of other red flags did you notice? This one was a huge eye opener for me. The sex was good though otherwise.
 
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You're over thinking this. Odds are since it was morning after a long night, she simply did not want you seeing her face with the makeup and everything else not looking on point. Not unusual for a woman you just met to think this way.
This.

The majority of the women I've slept with have been short-term flings. Most of them were very self-conscious about their bodies. It didn't matter if they were sexy as all hell, they still acted that way.
 

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plus if she want you to not look you say, "nah, I like to watch", or just hold her hands and say nothing when still looking at her.

like others say she don't wnat you to look at her without having a pristine look on her make-up, with in anycase most would like to turn the light off, but hey since i'm a light on during it I don't care much, I will be looking and I know they like it lol
 

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I banged a girl I worked with after a night of drinking, she was a little chubby, the next day she had to get up to answer the door, she said don't look, I didn't. lol. A lot of girls are self conscious, I wouldn't worry about it.
 

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Dear Jonny,
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^like he said,not a big deal.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wanna hear something really f'd up! mine was like that til she started screwing around. Then she was confident as hell.

They are all nuts somehow! and then they say we are.
 

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JonnyD123 said:
Weirdest encounter ever recently.

Hooked up with very attractive 28 yr old girl last weekend. Same night lay, was superb that night. She ended up crashing in my bed. The next morning we went at it again - midway through round 2 she got on top and proceeded to cover my eyes with her hands. I pulled them off and she said "noo don't look at me." Now I'm no psychologist but wtf? This girl had a bangin' body, no reason to be self conscious. Any thoughts?
The case is quite the opposite. She is extremely insecure about her body. Pretty typical with hot girls. She will go thru her entire life feeling/behaving this way.
 
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