"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lotusman

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I recently met a hottie through the net part-time lingerie model... i would say prob the hottest girl i've ever taken out...

anyway was going well drink, dinner - got trigger happy and took her to an exclusive nightclub - dropped $400.. (i really don't normally do this for women)... we had a great time got intimate etc...

anyway i txt her she txts back with no sign of a thankyou etc... i called her a couple of days later and she cuts me off!!

i'm getting the feeling she used me to have a good night out in a hot club and now she's chucked me away so i'm thinking of texting her telling her how rude she is and should acquire some manners or should i just leave it and move on? (i still would obviously like to you know what)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Pimp-sicle

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Tell me this is a troll............................:cheer:




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mtlwlu

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an xbox 360 wouldnt do that to you...lol. $400 is a bit too much for the first time out...or anytime out for that matter unless youre ballin at a casino in las vegas.
 

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wow man, thats all i gotta say.

first thing that i noticed....you said you dropped 400 WHICH YOU NORMALLY WOULDN'T DO. --> That right there made HER the prize, NOT you.

Mistake #2: DO NOT text her again. You should have NUMEROUS plates spinning at one time. By texting her saying how rude she is etc etc, your showing her that you don't have any other options and are probably acting just like all the other CHUMPS that do the same thing to her. DO NOT message her back, NEXT HER, and MAYBE just MAYBE she'll text or call you to hang out because your being different -- Your NOT chasing her.

And if that happens then guess what you've done, you have switched the frame and now YOUR in control. By doing that you just DHVed her and her attraction should go up.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hopefully by "got intimate" you mean you ****ed ***** or pounded ass, but I doubt it.
 

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thanks DJx420 - what you say makes sense. Yeah I just left it - tried to erase her from my mind and when i least expected it she txted apolosing for not picking up etc...

the issue i find is the hotter the women are i naturally regress into the afc mindset! so i suppose it's important to try to maintain the DJ mindset at all times and will develop more naturally as i start upping my game to the 8+ girls...

do you guys agree ? is the solution simply breaking through into that 8+ market once and it all flows from there?
 

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Im not sure what the solution is, but it certainely isnt using money to try and get "intimate" with women you rate "8" or above.
 

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man if i drop 400 i better ****ing get laid. You could have ordered very hot escorts for $400 and had a very good time.
 

L777

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400 dollars??

You shoudl have got a couple of hookers at least you woulda got laid!!

Seriously man....you got played. Learn from it and move on.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lotusman said:
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anyway was going well drink, dinner - got trigger happy and took her to an exclusive nightclub - dropped $400.. (i really don't normally do this for women)... we had a great time got intimate etc...

You mean you got intimate with your hand after the date?
 

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Please tell me this is a troll. Otherwise you deserve it dude.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Lotusman

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you are all right....

dropping 400 hurt esp with the credit crunch lol... i'm def not going to be doing that again esp not on the 1st meeting...

anyway she's been txting but it'll be a lot less lavish next time to truly assess her intentions also...

this whole episode reminded me how lame it is to put a woman on a pedestal...
 

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As somebody else said you really made her the prize and put her on the pedestal with the $400.

When you make somebody else the prize and out them on pedestals that means you are lower than them and have lower value. Now, why would a HB who has alot of men after her want to date a man who has lower value then her?

You probably acted AFC throughout the date too...
 

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To be fair this would have been a much smarter thing to do after say 5 or 6 regular ($20) dates. Youve failed on three major counts:
1) Demonstrated low value in yourself (buy trying to "buy" her)
2) Demonstrated the fact you're massively insecure (and trying to overcompensate)
3) Youve set unhealthy expectations for future dates (if there are any).
 
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