"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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hey fella,


Couple days ago I approach this girl at her work place, I started to DJ her. I notice this girl quite awhile now, but didn't really approach her in class because she was always with her EX (that broken up 1 year ago). She was really enjoying herself, unless she was pretending (since she at work). Then later I told her I got to go and ask for her MSN username. She gave it to me, the next day I instant message her, she wasn't really responding the way she did in person. She told me she had a bad day, blah blah blah. I still need to get her number, but never got a chance since the conversation wasn't flowing as smoothly on her part.

Now I am thinking should I continue talking to her, or wait a couple of days. Or just drop it here, but I do like a challenge. And she basically openly armed told me she single at one point when we talk in person. Thanks guys!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Deacon

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I'm sorry, I can't give any specific answers right now, but here's what I think:

I think she picked up on the vibe that you liked her. Cowboy up and ask her out on a date, otherwise she'll brand you as another AFC who hasn't the balls to take her out. Or, she may think you're not interested in her because of what you're doing. Either way, you won't get the girl.
 
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Next time you talk to her online, get the number....try to flirt a little first, but try to get it no matter what. What do you have to lose?

Actually....you could ask her out on a date. Then you'd have to get the number...lol
 
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Alright, talked to her online again. Attempt to DJ, but she was feeding me back one word response. What could this possibly mean?
 
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Check this out.

If she liked you she would let you know with IOIs.

Not feeling it?
Next...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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xero88 said:
Alright, talked to her online again. Attempt to DJ, but she was feeding me back one word response. What could this possibly mean?
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Nothing to lose. Ask her out point blank. Who cares. If she says no, then it's really no big deal. You will never know until you ask. Quit ***** footing around.
 
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no offense dude, but I think I asked girls for their screen names in what, maybe 7th, 8th grade?

At your age (19), you go for the #, plain and simple.

As far as the situation you have found yourself in now, I dont know what to tell you. People can be different online. Some people don't like to talk/type a lot. Also, the fact that you are probably throwing normal type of convo at her is suggesting you like her and at the same time probably making you fall closely to the Friends zone.

my only advice now would be to straight up ask her out. Say "we should do something this weekend", if you feel comfortable asking her that of course.
Let us know what happens man
 
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