"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
HB 7.5 beat me. No contact?
- Thread starter Rainman4707
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
plate's_empty
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Not surprised. Entertainment? As in seeing how many guys you can string along then deny and go ghost?rearea said:
POF's gone downhill in the last few years. 10 guys for every girl it seems, 6's are starting to get attitudes and acting like 9's and 10's. It's pretty bad.
If you get another one like this (because let's face it, you've f!*ked this one up), don't neg her, no need for the bant or even 1/4 the amount of texts. If she clicks her fingers and dictates terms that is fine because she is doing it FOR SEX, AS ARE YOU!
Even if you roll up and she's not as fit as you thought, just lose the V-plates man so you dont keep acting like this!!!!
cordoncordon
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What did you want her to do? Get on her knees and beg? What is the point of being on POF if not to meet girls? Here she is saying 'meet me, fawk me", and your response is 'no, I can't because you are tell me too'? :crazy:Rainman4707 said:
Does not compute.
cordoncordon
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This girls wants nothing to do with you. She thinks you are a psycho. Which, after reading all of your texts, I cannot argue.Rainman4707 said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Rainman4707 said:
Holy crap dude....girls always tell me how crazy most of the guys are on POF..this would definitely support their argument...i have never even met a chick as crazy as you are.....this is the worst text exchange i have ever seen...you should have just shut up and went to try and bang her...now you painted yourself like the American Physcho character. No chick will touch you with a 10 foot pole if you keep acting like this. I can't figure out if you are scared to meet and compensating or just physchotic.
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My brother got her number off POF & asked me if I knew her.
He said because he remembered me talking about how crazy she was!
Well I said that I was probs more crazy than her in the texts/phonecall
we had & that I could of met/fuc*ed her a few times, but in the end I
screwed it up.
Well he was texting her & told me she was crazy. I told him I thought she was quite funny. He said "no shes crazy"
He met her & told me she was very sarcastic..which she is.
Him: You look nice tonight..nicer than you do on your pof pics
Her: What you saying about my pics like? Dale you look worse
in person than you do on your pics!
He told me she was very sarcastic.
Him: I'm no taking this off you (Her sarcastic attitude)
He then walked out on her. (She was saying to him "You're the huffiest guy
I've ever met"
She was then texting him saying sorry & that she wanted to meet him again.
I was out in town last night with my Brother & my friend & she walked into the bar (She wasn't aware that we actually knew each other until then =)
She walked straight back out the bar then re-entered later.
She started dancing with a man as soon as she came back in right in front of us. (I knew her ****ty little game)
Btw I didn't look at her once at all during the whole charade. (My brothers texting her so it's his chance now)
My bro was looking at her though (He was smiling & laughing, but he wasn't impressed with her eccentric behaviour (she started pretending to fu*k the
lucky guy who she was dancing with)
None of us spoke to her although my bro & my friend were looking over to her direction. She came running over to me quite excited "Your crazy Ryan..the nutter" then ran back to her female friend.
I was just curious what you guys make of this girl?
She does like Marilyn Monroe as her facebook cover photo (im not friends
with her on facebook) & she has a little cute voice. I'm not trying trying to say she's BPD! I don't know much about that!
She once told me "Control me Ryan, control me" I think she puts on a front
& like most women wants a man who can control her so she acts like this to see whos capable.