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Hawaii Doctor Convicted of Attempted Manslaughter After Discovering Wife's Affair

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Not sure if anyone has been following this trial on Court TV and socials but Hawaii doctor (Gerhardt Konig) was found guilty today of attempted manslaughter due to extreme mental/emotional disturbance (prosecution was going for attempted murder).

Jurors believed the relationship Arielle Konig had with a coworker was sufficient to cause "an extreme mental emotional disturbance" and this affected their verdict.

Under Hawaii law, if jurors believe a defendant committed attempted murder but was under the influence of an extreme mental or emotional disturbance at the time, they must reduce the charge to attempted manslaughter if they believe there was a reasonable explanation for the disturbance.

Basically his wife had an affair with a co-worker, tried to cover it up (deleted text messages etc), husband found out and completely lost his shyt while on a hike with her after she said.she would be seeing co-worker Monday morning.

They had a fight, she fell, he was on top of her with a rock hitting her several times in the head which required stitches but no concussion or brain injury.

He faces up to 20 years in prison.

Likely sentence - 14 years. Out on parole in 10-12 or less.

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I followed the case through articles in Dailymail ... it's an example of how lack of self-control destroys a person's life. He should've simply initiated divorce proceedings after discovery of her affair AND that she wasn't sufficiently remorseful. I don't believe everything was fine in their marriage, otherwise she wouldn't have started that affair. His ex wife turned to sex work after divorce and married/divorced a non-binary person :rolleyes: ... so there's something really off with him.
 

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@Sega Genesis "They had a fight, she fell, he was on top of her with a rock hitting her several times in the head which required stitches but no concussion or brain injury"

He possessed an MD, but wasn't canny enough to clock this hoebag in the places necessary to end her life... One shudders to imagine the depths of incompetence he stooped to, during the course of his career
 

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just another case of woman mixing with men in the workplace. really common issue. most often it is never discovered.

fault is in sending wife to the hunting grounds alone.

IF you want to be married, don't have your wife spend so much time with other men such as working, or even a charity club...
don't control her, just don't make her a wife if she wants to spend time with other men. and for sure do not send her to work because you need money....

As pipe said.. the man should control himself...

often the same men that can not control themself are the same ones that send the wife to work because he also can not manage his money.
 

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That couldn't have been the first indicator and warning bell to gtfo. I've been inches from someone's face (scaring myself just as much as her btw) yelling, but never got to the point of trying to get a rock and bash her skull in. Years of being told 'the right way to husband' and none of it working out can lead a man to some very foolish paths. *points to myself* THIS man not excluded.

That's why the stuff we talk about on here no matter how t0xic, counter culture, fringe and anti PC it seems matters. Too many men miss the importance of understanding the truth of dynamics. Whether by design or not. No matter how much we don't like the truth we have to either adjust to the world or choose to cling to delusion and failing traditions. He chose the latter would be my guess. Another sad chapter yet further evidence of the importance of missing knowledge in the development of boys and young men.

I will acknowledge that this failure leading to rudderless men also effects women. Shouldn't have come to having the effects it did for her specifically, and hopefully she will be able to bounce back from it. The more messed up thing is exposing his kid to it. A father should never have to feel the need to bring such matters to their children. It should be the kid coming to the parents in times of trouble, but that's just me. Hopefully that kid has other role models. Sad.
 

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I believe that if the law granted a free from conseguences divorce to men that got cheated, most of the violence wouldnt exist.

To know that she gave herself to an other guy while you were paying the bills (economically and emotionally) and despite that she will own your stuff in case of divorce, is the real reason why many men flip in such condition.
 

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I believe that if the law granted a free from conseguences divorce to men that got cheated, most of the violence wouldnt exist.

To know that she gave herself to an other guy while you were paying the bills (economically and emotionally) and despite that she will own your stuff in case of divorce, is the real reason why many men flip in such condition.
Plenty of women have killed or tried to kill their husbands when they discovered them cheating.

I think it's about betrayal mostly and in many cases ego.

This case was strange in that after learning of his wife's affair, he planned and took her on a hiking retreat for her birthday and gave her a birthday card describing her as a "loving and selfless 'Angel Face' and 'terrific mom' whom he and the family "hit the jackpot with."

After which she told him rather coldly that she would be seeing her AP at work on Monday even though she had left that job and told him the affair was over.

Guy went into a complete rage after that which is why the jury found for the lesser charge of attempted manslaughter versus attempted murder.

Heat of the moment, crime of passion according to the jury. Not premeditated murder.

But who the hell knows? The entire thing may have been planned and the birthday card was used as a ruse to make it appear like he was not bitter and angry about her affair. Which anyone wouid be!

I mean logically what man would give his wife a card like that after discovering that she had lied, deceived and cheated on him? Really?

I don't think we will ever know for sure but he's out in 8-10 years most likely. Versus LIFE.
 
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