I am more a moderate extrovert, I am fine with being outgoing and chasing hoes for fun and sitting back and doing nothing as long as i don't get to the point of cabin fever. I recently figured out that most of buddies who are guys are more introverted and don't like going out. I find this detrimental because i don't want to be the weird guy at the bar by myself. I know my obvious solution is get more extroverted guy friends. Is there anyway that i can get this guys more motivated? or should I go alone, because i feel like this is massively holding me back.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
having your bros/buddies/ or wings holding you back?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
After a certain age I've learned that some people want to go out and some people don't. There isn't much changing their basic attitude towards bars and clubs. If someone knows (or thinks) they don't like social places like that it's hard for them to change their perception. It's as bad as you staying at home!
Keep them as friends since, in my opinion, the old friends who knew you when are important, but find another crew to go out with. You may have to start out as the weird guy at the bar alone.
Keep them as friends since, in my opinion, the old friends who knew you when are important, but find another crew to go out with. You may have to start out as the weird guy at the bar alone.
Tictac
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What. You though that **** blocking was something only women do?
Seriously?
Seriously?
You should go out alone and make new friends who like going out. You can make those friends at the club/bar or even using this site. Being able to go it alone is valuable. I went out alone on Halloween last year. I made friends that night.
You'll meet tons of new people if and when you go out. This option is better than staying in or being dependant on waiting for others to show up.
You may even find so much more in common or deeper connection with these other new people than your friends. There is a ton of benefits to going out sarging alone.
You won't be the weird guy alone at the bar. You'll be the confident guy out living his life and doing what he wants to do, making things happen and being in the party. That's cool. So go for it man.
You may even find so much more in common or deeper connection with these other new people than your friends. There is a ton of benefits to going out sarging alone.
You won't be the weird guy alone at the bar. You'll be the confident guy out living his life and doing what he wants to do, making things happen and being in the party. That's cool. So go for it man.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.