I am more a moderate extrovert, I am fine with being outgoing and chasing hoes for fun and sitting back and doing nothing as long as i don't get to the point of cabin fever. I recently figured out that most of buddies who are guys are more introverted and don't like going out. I find this detrimental because i don't want to be the weird guy at the bar by myself. I know my obvious solution is get more extroverted guy friends. Is there anyway that i can get this guys more motivated? or should I go alone, because i feel like this is massively holding me back.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
having your bros/buddies/ or wings holding you back?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
After a certain age I've learned that some people want to go out and some people don't. There isn't much changing their basic attitude towards bars and clubs. If someone knows (or thinks) they don't like social places like that it's hard for them to change their perception. It's as bad as you staying at home!
Keep them as friends since, in my opinion, the old friends who knew you when are important, but find another crew to go out with. You may have to start out as the weird guy at the bar alone.
Keep them as friends since, in my opinion, the old friends who knew you when are important, but find another crew to go out with. You may have to start out as the weird guy at the bar alone.
Tictac
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What. You though that **** blocking was something only women do?
Seriously?
Seriously?
You should go out alone and make new friends who like going out. You can make those friends at the club/bar or even using this site. Being able to go it alone is valuable. I went out alone on Halloween last year. I made friends that night.
You'll meet tons of new people if and when you go out. This option is better than staying in or being dependant on waiting for others to show up.
You may even find so much more in common or deeper connection with these other new people than your friends. There is a ton of benefits to going out sarging alone.
You won't be the weird guy alone at the bar. You'll be the confident guy out living his life and doing what he wants to do, making things happen and being in the party. That's cool. So go for it man.
You may even find so much more in common or deeper connection with these other new people than your friends. There is a ton of benefits to going out sarging alone.
You won't be the weird guy alone at the bar. You'll be the confident guy out living his life and doing what he wants to do, making things happen and being in the party. That's cool. So go for it man.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.