"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Having trouble building confidence to make the move?

RollinDoobs

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Before you read all this, take into account that Im in highschool. Highschool forum is kind of dead so I decided to post here.
There have been plenty of times where I KNOW a girl is attracted to me but I dont really know how to make a move. What is the best way to get a girl away from everybody else?
My main problem is that I have trouble building up the courage to try to make a move on a girl, even if Im pretty sure that she is attracted to me... I know yall are gonna say "just grow some balls", but do you have any advice on a ggod way to get her away from the group/build up the confidence to get her away from the group? I hate being stuck in this hole...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Allurre

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You'll get out of this hole, by first rewiring your brain's response to what usually happens when you see a girl that you suspect likes you.

Next time, just go for it. The more you repeat a certain behavior, the more normalized it becomes. Since you're always responding with fear to approach, that response is what you'll most likely experience the next time, unless you break this pattern.
 

garruk

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theres no easy way to build confidence kid. theres no magic pill, if there was, every dude in this forum (probably the world) would have taken it already.

REAL confidence is built through success and hard work. through accomplishments, and knowing you've worked hard for something. thats how you become sure of yourself. the vast majority of people on this forum are looking for "the easy way" to get girls.

but the quicker you learn that the ONLY real way to get girls is through being a better you, the quicker you'll succeed.


so youre in high school? go to the gym, do well in school, make a lot of friends. you wont need to build confidence. you'll have it.
 
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