"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Having trouble building confidence to make the move?

RollinDoobs

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Before you read all this, take into account that Im in highschool. Highschool forum is kind of dead so I decided to post here.
There have been plenty of times where I KNOW a girl is attracted to me but I dont really know how to make a move. What is the best way to get a girl away from everybody else?
My main problem is that I have trouble building up the courage to try to make a move on a girl, even if Im pretty sure that she is attracted to me... I know yall are gonna say "just grow some balls", but do you have any advice on a ggod way to get her away from the group/build up the confidence to get her away from the group? I hate being stuck in this hole...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Allurre

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You'll get out of this hole, by first rewiring your brain's response to what usually happens when you see a girl that you suspect likes you.

Next time, just go for it. The more you repeat a certain behavior, the more normalized it becomes. Since you're always responding with fear to approach, that response is what you'll most likely experience the next time, unless you break this pattern.
 

garruk

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theres no easy way to build confidence kid. theres no magic pill, if there was, every dude in this forum (probably the world) would have taken it already.

REAL confidence is built through success and hard work. through accomplishments, and knowing you've worked hard for something. thats how you become sure of yourself. the vast majority of people on this forum are looking for "the easy way" to get girls.

but the quicker you learn that the ONLY real way to get girls is through being a better you, the quicker you'll succeed.


so youre in high school? go to the gym, do well in school, make a lot of friends. you wont need to build confidence. you'll have it.
 
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