Having sex as a guy who doesn't last very long

[Paper Crane]

Just thought I'd share some tips for those who might not have the greatest ejaculation control. It's especially harder for me now because the chick I'm seeing has a pornstar like body. Shes a former dancer/model/video vixen.

Majority of positions I bang her in are too sexy to handle at times. (big breasts, beautiful face, big ass, slim waist). After first few times we had sex she told me she's dated alot of one pump chumps, guys who don't last more than a minute or two with her. I told her I don't blame them and that it was totally her fault lol.

Nonetheless, I don't last much longer but she doesn't mind. I'm experienced enough knowing that I'm not a guy who lasts forever, I do a lot more to make the experience amazing for both of us.

Average duration of penetration sex for us: 10 minutes. (15-20 minutes if I use a condom or desensitizing spray)
Sex how we have it: 40 minutes - 1 hour (includes foreplay, sucking,kissing, touching, stroking, groping, fingering, toys)

Here are the tips:
1) I don't bother busting a nut before hand. I think its a waste. I use a numbing spray at times which desentizes the penis. I spray it on, let it soak in and when we get ready to go, it helps me last an extra 5 minutes.
2) Use a thicker condom. This helps alot. My girl likes when I use ribbed condoms.
3) Lots of foreplay. My girl loves when I make out with her, grope her , spank her ass, kiss , lick, suck n her body. Fingering her,
4) Toys, she loves when I use toys. The last time we played with toys, she said it was so fun that we could make a party out of it if we find the right girl
5) I find that i have better ejaculation control when i haven't ate anything / have caffeine. Not sure why.
6) Own it. You bust quick, so what? So do Lions in the wild. They last seconds. But what turns the female on is not the sex, but the power you posess.

I know that part of why I'm busting so fast is that I've been like this but another part of it is, the novelty of the situation. Hasn't been very long so far. However this is the first time I've ever been with a woman who has her attributes. In the past Ive had sex with women for up to 30-40 minutes with pure stroking/banging hard. But i'm also a very visual/mentally stimulated person. First time having sex with this girl, I busted in less than a minute. Embarrassing, I know. But what i learned from having sex with many different women is that if you own it, it actually turns them on and makes them feel special.

 

[Velasco]

sleazy had a post saying that it was prob an evolutionary disadvantage for guys to take forever to bust a nut

Open Post: We Are Built for Fast Sex

In the current Open Thread, Old Anon made a good observation about the nature of sex: The more I think about the role of sex, the more I am convinced that there is little wrong with us as men. Sex …

blog.aaronsleazy.com

 

[MoMoses]

6) Own it. You bust quick, so what? So do Lions in the wild. They last seconds. But what turns the female on is not the sex, but the power you posess.

Love how you put this one! And so true..

Foreplay and the dominant way you have sex are far more important. And funny thing is.. once you let go of the self imposed pressure to last long, you actually last long(er).

 

[EyeBRollin]

^^^ agreed. Stop thinking about it. Sex is for your pleasure not hers. Bring that entitled attitude into the bedroom. You should expect her to be pleasing you.

 

[logicallefty]

^^^ agreed. Stop thinking about it. Sex is for your pleasure not hers. Bring that entitled attitude into the bedroom. You should expect her to be pleasing you.

If you are only planning on sex with each chick once then yes you are correct. But if you want her to return for second, thirds, tenths, etc you HAVE to give her the O the first few times and most times.

As I have gotten older I’ve gotten to where I can really control when I bust the nut. I can go for 10 minutes or an hour if she wants it that long. But most women actually don’t. 20-30 minutes seems to be the time most prefer who I have ever talked about it with.

Another thing I have done before when younger was if I was really feeling the urge before a date I would actually rub one out before the date. Then when I finally got the duck in the mud 2-3-5 hours later I had a lot more stamina to last as long as needed.

 

[SW15]

I can last a long time in part due to using condoms. I use thinner condoms and still last for a while.

 

[redskinsfan92]

Hell, it ain't over after one nut

 

[EyeBRollin]

If you are only planning on sex with each chick once then yes you are correct. But if you want her to return for second, thirds, tenths, etc you HAVE to give her the O the first few times and most times.

I don’t disagree. I’ve just come to think less about a woman’s pleasure overall lately and it’s worked great. The women that consistently orgasmed have little to do with technique and more to do with the intensity of her feelings and how well she knows her own body.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Yeah, there is pressure on a guy the first couple times you're with a new girl. We all know the reasons. That said, here are a few things that have worked for me:

- Have a few drinks, maybe 2-3.
- Women love foreplay, get good at it and know her spots.
- There is a technique I'll call "the pinch" - when you feel yourself about to pop, pull out and moderately squeeze the head of your d*ck. It reduces the urge to blow. You can go a few more minutes this way.
- I pop about 10-15 mgs of generic Viagra 30-60 minutes before. This REALLY delays the ejaculation for me. Add a couple drinks and I've had a few chicks say they're getting sore, lol.
- Mind games: if you feel yourself about to pop and it's too soon, try thinking about something else. It's worked for me in the past. I'm usually playing QB for the Chicago Bears; a home game at Soldier Field against GB and we WIN (for once...). There's even a famous scene in a movie called Singles where the guy is going to blow and he's thinking about his favorite player from the old Seattle Supersonics, funny as hell.

 

[deadmasterx]

Oftenly, people who have problems with erections (either too fast or no erection at all) has even deeper problems with anxiety. Apparently it's not a natural thing, nor a choice, but a consequence of something bigger.

I'd reccomend you to not stay just on band-aid solutions and go to a psychiatrist or therapist to work better on this issue.

 

[Grinderman]

Breathing. Become friends with your breath.

Meditate / practice mindful breathing. Long deep breaths bring attention to the breath.

Body scan. Practice body scanning at any moment of the day. Scan (bring your mind/attention slowly through your body from toes to head, noticing where you are tense and letting go of the tension. Let the tension literally drop away from your body)

the moment of orgasm : if you observe the body and the breath during the moment of climax: the body is tense (ass muscles probably squeezed together and the breath is short and fast. Where is the mind? The fast and the furious BOOM damn.

Meditation / mindfulness during intercourse : Keep the body free from tension. Breathing deep is your friend: You want your breath in synch with your thrusting. If you can find this rhythm your mind is the zone. Relaxed body, deep in synch breathing.

The rider is riding the horse! instead of the horse running away with the rider!

A good cardio base also helps with the deep breathing and stamina. When you both start dripping sweat you know you are the marathon man.

 

[bat soup]

Just thought I'd share some tips for those who might not have the greatest ejaculation control. It's especially harder for me now because the chick I'm seeing has a pornstar like body. Shes a former dancer/model/video vixen.

Majority of positions I bang her in are too sexy to handle at times. (big breasts, beautiful face, big ass, slim waist). After first few times we had sex she told me she's dated alot of one pump chumps, guys who don't last more than a minute or two with her. I told her I don't blame them and that it was totally her fault lol.

Nonetheless, I don't last much longer but she doesn't mind. I'm experienced enough knowing that I'm not a guy who lasts forever, I do a lot more to make the experience amazing for both of us.

Average duration of penetration sex for us: 10 minutes. (15-20 minutes if I use a condom or desensitizing spray)
Sex how we have it: 40 minutes - 1 hour (includes foreplay, sucking,kissing, touching, stroking, groping, fingering, toys)

Here are the tips:
1) I don't bother busting a nut before hand. I think its a waste. I use a numbing spray at times which desentizes the penis. I spray it on, let it soak in and when we get ready to go, it helps me last an extra 5 minutes.
2) Use a thicker condom. This helps alot. My girl likes when I use ribbed condoms.
3) Lots of foreplay. My girl loves when I make out with her, grope her , spank her ass, kiss , lick, suck n her body. Fingering her,
4) Toys, she loves when I use toys. The last time we played with toys, she said it was so fun that we could make a party out of it if we find the right girl
5) I find that i have better ejaculation control when i haven't ate anything / have caffeine. Not sure why.
6) Own it. You bust quick, so what? So do Lions in the wild. They last seconds. But what turns the female on is not the sex, but the power you posess.

I know that part of why I'm busting so fast is that I've been like this but another part of it is, the novelty of the situation. Hasn't been very long so far. However this is the first time I've ever been with a woman who has her attributes. In the past Ive had sex with women for up to 30-40 minutes with pure stroking/banging hard. But i'm also a very visual/mentally stimulated person. First time having sex with this girl, I busted in less than a minute. Embarrassing, I know. But what i learned from having sex with many different women is that if you own it, it actually turns them on and makes them feel special.

Finishing quickly can be an advantage when using prostitutes because they charge by the hour. Another bonus is that you will have more time for videos games.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

In my mind I am trying to fvck her better and harder than any guy she has ever met and I can't do that if I cvm after 5 minutes...work on delaying your ejaculations and controlling your body functions.

When it gets too intense pull out and start sucking her tits or fingering her and then go back in. If you do this a few times you will find yourself at a point where it becomes almost impossible to cvm and you will go for as long as you want.

This is a skill that you can learn. Becoming great in the bedroom takes conscious effort and practice but it is well worth it.