"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Having LTR worries

ddubdubw

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Ok, heres the deal. I have been with this girl since the 9th grade. Its coming up on 7 years. She is the only girl I have ever had sex with. I have had a few chances at other girls but my guilty conscience would get the best of me. I am 21 years old and I have been feeling differently about this girl than before. This has been going on for a couple years I guess since I started college. I really don't have that much fun with her anymore. This girl loves me to death and wants to spend the rest of her life with me but I'm not sure what I want to do. I have never been with anyone else except for her.
We did break up a couple summers ago b/c I was neglecting her and we weren't getting along. I dated this one girl and we fooled around but she wouldn't have sex with me. Well, the X and I got back together after a few months but its back to the same way it was. I just want to experience the single life and go out with other girls and not be committed. I also do not want to hurt her. I am comfortable with her but I guess I'm not in love with her like I used to be. It has changed. Now I am getting a new job and moving and she wants to spend the summer with me and move in. We have never lived together. She has one more year of school and I'm done in May. So after next year she will be wanting to move in full time.
I have found myself in situations where I start to fool around with a girl but I don't go all the way. I used to never be like that but I am changing. I would like to know how it is to be with other girls. The only bad thing is the dry periods when I have no girl to hang out with.

What do you guys make of this?

This has been on my mind for a few months or maybe even a year now. I know its not fair to her. Its one of those relationshipes where both of our parents think we are going to get married. I am pretty confused.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Obsidian

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Make a list of all the criteria you look for in a good woman. Make sure "disinterested in me" isn't one of them. Then analyze the situation logically.

imo, if you've gotten along this long then it sounds like a pretty good thing, but what do I know
 

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ddubdubw said:
...I guess I'm not in love with her like I used to be.
Off course you don't love her, I mean just look at how little you appreciate this girl. All you're thinking about is experiencing the "single-life", instead of what's really right and selfless. A 7 year relationship is quite a thing, especially if it lasted over your teen years. I mean, you've both seen each other go through so many stages of pubirty, so you're both used to change and growth in your relationship. I wouldn't encourage you to break up.

My friend, love is a verb. You won't ever feel "Love the feeling" unless you do "love the action". So just love her, man. Appreciate her, fvck her like there's no tomorrow, encourage her, dominate her... whatever. You know how you love best. :)
 
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