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Having her watch a movie with me on my bed - too much too soon?

The_Reaper

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Summary:

Know a girl a few years
Recently we got back in touch after not talking for ages
She's interested
Me too :)

I moved back home with my parents to save money for university next year (postgrad).
I was thinking of inviting her over (this will be only my second "date" with her recently, though we talk all the time by text and the internet), and having her watch a movie with me - but watching it on my bed (my house is small, and there's nowhere else to watch it in peace).

Your thoughts? Will she launch her anti-slut missiles?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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rocksoff

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Dude.....half your work is done. 90% of my fvcks have been the result of "watching a movie at my place", You need to believe that she is only coming over to watch a movie and nothing else, once she know's you just wanna **** her the antislut missles will come ragin out.......trust me she knows this if she agreed to come over, Just dont fvck up by coming on too strong outta nowhere its gotta escalate super naturally, A good technique is Blast the A/C and get it cold as a mo****a in your crib, you guys will be all up on each other and from there its very simple . Good luck man
 

The_Reaper

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rocksoff said:
Dude.....half your work is done. 90% of my fvcks have been the result of "watching a movie at my place", You need to believe that she is only coming over to watch a movie and nothing else, once she know's you just wanna **** her the antislut missles will come ragin out.......trust me she knows this if she agreed to come over, Just dont fvck up by coming on too strong outta nowhere its gotta escalate super naturally, A good technique is Blast the A/C and get it cold as a mo****a in your crib, you guys will be all up on each other and from there its very simple . Good luck man
Thanks man.
The thing is though, it won't just be at my place, it'll be on my bed.
 

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The_Reaper said:
Thanks man.
The thing is though, it won't just be at my place, it'll be on my bed.
Then you shouldn't fail. If she's in your bed then she should know what's gonna go down.
 

The_Reaper

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dalynxx said:
Then you shouldn't fail. If she's in your bed then she should know what's gonna go down.
Yeah but getting her there in the first place... I'm wondering will she put up anti-slut defences and say no to lying down on the bed.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It is upon you to find out. Are you willing to pay the price?
 

john paul

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Trust me. If shes interested and you make it a relaxing and quiet environment she will go as far as you push the situation. She doesnt want to watch a movie, she wants to hook up with you.

Sucks living with the parents though.
 

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It's all about how you present the package. Don't say 'bed' on the phone. Just invite her over for a movie, and then "oops", the only place you can watch it is on your bed.
 

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You need to make sure you act like it's completely natural that you're watching it on your bed, if you start to give off the insecure vibes she's going to pick up on that.
 

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Dude just ask her out to watch a movie at your place, don't mention about the bed or no bed. Once she is there and you sit comfortably on your bed and tell her to sit and watch, do you seriously think she is going to throw a fit and leave? unlikely.

If you make a big deal out of it though so will she, just start watching the movie comfortably on your bed, then escalate which hopefully leads you to missing the end of the film haha.

Just be open minded and be willing to break the rules in good ways or bad ways despite all the advice your given.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ATX1001

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You could always watch it lying on top of the bed, then when she says she's cold (because you don't have a heater in your room do you??) you get another blanket to go over the both of you... BAM your both basically under the covers and "in bed".

Tried this a few times and it's worked every time...
 
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