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Having her watch a movie with me on my bed - too much too soon?

The_Reaper

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Know a girl a few years
Recently we got back in touch after not talking for ages
She's interested
Me too :)

I moved back home with my parents to save money for university next year (postgrad).
I was thinking of inviting her over (this will be only my second "date" with her recently, though we talk all the time by text and the internet), and having her watch a movie with me - but watching it on my bed (my house is small, and there's nowhere else to watch it in peace).

Your thoughts? Will she launch her anti-slut missiles?
 

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Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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Dude.....half your work is done. 90% of my fvcks have been the result of "watching a movie at my place", You need to believe that she is only coming over to watch a movie and nothing else, once she know's you just wanna **** her the antislut missles will come ragin out.......trust me she knows this if she agreed to come over, Just dont fvck up by coming on too strong outta nowhere its gotta escalate super naturally, A good technique is Blast the A/C and get it cold as a mo****a in your crib, you guys will be all up on each other and from there its very simple . Good luck man
 

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rocksoff said:
Dude.....half your work is done. 90% of my fvcks have been the result of "watching a movie at my place", You need to believe that she is only coming over to watch a movie and nothing else, once she know's you just wanna **** her the antislut missles will come ragin out.......trust me she knows this if she agreed to come over, Just dont fvck up by coming on too strong outta nowhere its gotta escalate super naturally, A good technique is Blast the A/C and get it cold as a mo****a in your crib, you guys will be all up on each other and from there its very simple . Good luck man
Thanks man.
The thing is though, it won't just be at my place, it'll be on my bed.
 

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The_Reaper said:
Thanks man.
The thing is though, it won't just be at my place, it'll be on my bed.
Then you shouldn't fail. If she's in your bed then she should know what's gonna go down.
 

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dalynxx said:
Then you shouldn't fail. If she's in your bed then she should know what's gonna go down.
Yeah but getting her there in the first place... I'm wondering will she put up anti-slut defences and say no to lying down on the bed.
 

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It is upon you to find out. Are you willing to pay the price?
 

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Trust me. If shes interested and you make it a relaxing and quiet environment she will go as far as you push the situation. She doesnt want to watch a movie, she wants to hook up with you.

Sucks living with the parents though.
 

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It's all about how you present the package. Don't say 'bed' on the phone. Just invite her over for a movie, and then "oops", the only place you can watch it is on your bed.
 

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You need to make sure you act like it's completely natural that you're watching it on your bed, if you start to give off the insecure vibes she's going to pick up on that.
 

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Dude just ask her out to watch a movie at your place, don't mention about the bed or no bed. Once she is there and you sit comfortably on your bed and tell her to sit and watch, do you seriously think she is going to throw a fit and leave? unlikely.

If you make a big deal out of it though so will she, just start watching the movie comfortably on your bed, then escalate which hopefully leads you to missing the end of the film haha.

Just be open minded and be willing to break the rules in good ways or bad ways despite all the advice your given.
 

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Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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You could always watch it lying on top of the bed, then when she says she's cold (because you don't have a heater in your room do you??) you get another blanket to go over the both of you... BAM your both basically under the covers and "in bed".

Tried this a few times and it's worked every time...
 
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