"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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having girls aproach you by suprise.

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Well today during lunch I was hanging with my friends in a circle and this girl that I know came up to me.
I have been using my DJ skills on her and she has been liking me..so anyways. She came up to me and kinda kicked me in a playful way and said hi. I was not expecting her to come up to me and I spaced out and so I just said hi and did not say anything else and looked her in the eyes. She stood there for a second expecting something but I wasnt expecting her to come out of nowhere but then she just walked away to her group. We both are in different grade levels Im a sophmore shes is a senior and we have different friends.
So the next time she does this I want to be prepared. Like say something funny. Anny suggestions would help and soon I would be able to think on a dime with some practice.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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well...i'd imagine that kinda didn't go really well if there was that awkward slience... What I noticed is you just said hi instead of keeping the convo alive (what's up?, how you doin?, what are you doing tonight?)

So next time, do something to keep the contact there...

p.s. It's natural skill, not really anything I learned here to keep/start a convo like above. Something like the above..can do wonders. ^^
 

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"So the next time she does this I want to be prepared. "

-it´s not like shes gonna come up to you while your in the exact situation and kick you exactly the same as she did before. Do what Docs said and just try to keep the conversation alive, asking her about her day, comment on the food or whatever and other stuff like that...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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