"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Having dreams about my ex gf? wtf!!

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It has been about 6 months since I broke it off with my girl friend and for some strange reason I just started having dreams about her.

I've dated other women and been very busy with work since that time. I also know that this girl isn't going to come running back to me and I have no intention of even sending her an email. We are not even friends. I haven't seen her since I told her off.

These dreams have been very emotional and in some cases very symbolic of things- almost to the point where they are disturbing me. I wake up feeling as if I have done something wrong or made a huge mistake. This is not rational at all.

I just can't figure out why this girl is in my head again.

Anyone else have a problem like this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The girl is only a symbol. I am studying psychology.

Look at it this way: Someone who dreams hes with his girfriend and plans to go somewhere and never gets there because the way is blocked or too small might indicate someone doing poorly in bed.

Do NOT take your dreams for straight interpretation.
 
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it is not that I'm dreaming that the way is blocked. I'm dreaming that I'm with this girl again in a relationship. And that she has forgivin me...Which doesn't make any sense. In my dream I'm being a total AFC and I'm trying to make amends with her.

this is stupid.
 
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Well Im just still a student so do not take what I will say for granted. Still based on what you said, one could say that " some link as been remade, you have been forgiven and you are trying to atone for something.

Does it remind you of something happening in your current situation? I know its borderline pop psychology though because I am not a psy yet.
 
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Do you feel bad for 'telling her off' and now regret it - maybe this chapter in your life is not closed until you feel forgiven or make amends (thus the afc behavior) - you need closure!!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dream what you may, but live how you must.

-Grey Fox
 
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Originally posted by Grey Fox
Dream what you may, but live how you must.

-Grey Fox
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i couldn't have said it better myself.
 
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Originally posted by MrBond_Age
Well Im just still a student so do not take what I will say for granted. Still based on what you said, one could say that " some link as been remade, you have been forgiven and you are trying to atone for something.

Does it remind you of something happening in your current situation? I know its borderline pop psychology though because I am not a psy yet.
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I've been studying psych and I say that it's his subconscious saying that he has some unresolved issues with that relationship. Best thing he can do to resolve it is to go fvck her sister. :p
 
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dreams are like an upside-down puzzle. you can put the pieces together, and they may fit, but you can never understand the message behind them.

psychologists (as far as they have come) cannot ever understand (at least not now) why we dream, and why what we dream is important.

dreams- dont worry about dreams man
dreams are just a way for your brain to cool off from the day (i.e. brain taking a shower)

dont sweat dreams
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by DJ_Dork
i bet it was a wet dream too.
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no.. if it was I would be ok with it :)
 
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