having a whor-e as your girlfriend

[pyros]

Hello.

I was wondering if you found girl you really liked, one with whom you had a lot in common, good sex, respectful etc etc but you knew she was a damn who-re before she met you because she used to bang many dudes, had threesomes, ONS etc... would you make her your girlfriend and think about a future together? or you would never do that because she was a slut?

 

[SmooveMooves]

NO do not do it its a waste of time. I learned the hard way 5 times over back in my Disney ways when I believed that I could make such girl change her ways with "love"

A slutts gonna be a slutts until she hits the wall, only on rare occasions such female change.

Even then, chance of relapse back into slvtty ways is to big of a risk when you can just grab yourself a non-slvt

So I'd just enjoy the sex until she pushes for a relationship, then you gotta cut her off like a karate chop

This quote sums it up: You CAN'T turn a HOE into a Housewife

 

[TheException]

NO do not do it its a waste of time. I learned the hard way 5 times over back in my Disney ways when I believed that I could make such girl change her ways with "love"

A slutts gonna be a slutts until she hits the wall, only on rare occasions such female change.

Even then, chance of relapse back into slvtty ways is to big of a risk when you can just grab yourself a non-slvt

So I'd just enjoy the sex until she pushes for a relationship, then you gotta cut her off like a karate chop

This quote sums it up: You CAN'T turn a HOE into a Housewife

Bingo.

There are plenty of hot high quality women that dont have a sh1tty past....why would you settle for one that does?

 

[BMX]

Yes. My first gf was a slvt that did all those crazy things in her past. It lasted 2 months and we had unsatisfying sex tbh. They won't bump their heads and magically change overnight for you. Never will. The virgins I've dated after were far more satisfying in and out of bed. They aren't alcoholics with severe baggage to say the least.

 

[Jaylan]

From my American viewpoint:

OP, it depends on a guy's definition of slut, and his definition of "many". Every guy sees that all differently. Some dudes are pretty conservative (or prude in my book) and get bent out of shape if a woman has 5 partners despite the fact that shes not in her young 20s anymore and an adult. The reality is that many people have more than 5 partners by their later 20s.

Other guys, like myself, understand chicks have sexual desires and needs, so I accept certain types of pasts within reason. Like personally, I dont mind a woman who has a past similar to mine, as Im not a hypocrite. I wont look down on her for doing things Ive done. In reality, Ive seen that partners with similar pasts fit together better, as those similar pasts breed understanding.

Most of the time Ive seen problems arise when one of the partners has a more colorful past than the other. Ive seen both men and women feel uncomfortable about a dating prospects past.

Anyways, personally, I dont mind a couple one night stands in a womans past. Ive had a couple myself, and not in the same time period either. I can accept if it was something that only happened a couple times, and wasnt a bad habit. Regarding 3 somes, those bug me a little bit...but Ive participated in one before. Id actually be more ok with a girl having had a MMF 3some over a FFM 3 some. Why? Because I dont date bisexual women seriously (though ill hook up with them). Personally, I feel straight women are relationship material for me. I want a chick that loves d!k and solely d!k.

And regarding numbers....I judge by average number of partners per year. I can live with an average of 1-2 partners per year. For example...say a girl is 26 and lost her virginity at 16. If she has 13 partners total, which includes her flings and committed relationships, that doesnt bother me. Im realistic and expect people to have sex throughout their single life. 1 - 2 partners on average a year is not bad at all, and fairly low compared to some people I know. But if the chick had just turned 20, lost her virginity at 16 and already has 13 partners, Id prolly not be into it. Because then you gotta wonder how often she was screwing new dudes in between her relationships.

All in all, Im accepting of some casual sex as long as risky stuff like one night stands were not a habit. And I absolutely am turned off by women who have cheated, or selfishly and unrepentantly helped someone else cheated. A girl has to show she has respect for relationships.

This all said, you have to know how to be a very good judge of character, because we know how often women will lie about this stuff.

 

[b305d]

Been there done that. You can read my past threads.

My ex-gf told me she's been with no more than 15 guys and she's 21.

Initially, I didn't give a fvck.

She can call herself my gf if she wants, makes no difference.

Then I started falling in deeper and deeper.

It hurts, man. I don't think the guys on SS can understand unless they have actually loved a girl before.

That feeling of disgust at someone you love. I never really understood until I was with her.

It's a terrible feeling and one I never want to experience again.

You can play the DJ game all you want, but the poison will slowly seep in through the cracks.

All those beautiful moments you have together will be forever tainted.

You just can't help but like the girl when you spend all your time together, laugh together, eat together, clean up a 6-pack together, sleep together. Birthdays, vacation, etc.

Slowly, the memories will start piling up.

The ache never really goes away. I don't think these girls really understand that pain.

In the end, I broke up with her because of it. I can't spend the rest of my life living with that kind of pain. There was no future.

As shallow as it may sound, no wife of mine will be a wh0re.

Maybe if I could just accept her past, we would have been happy together.

Doubt it, I saw who she really was after breakup. The infatuation was the only thing keeping her in line.

These types of girls move on a lot faster too. Go figure, live and learn.

It was painful but I'm really glad I did the right thing. Otherwise, 10 years later, my life would have been hell.

Sometimes, we have to be a man and do the right thing, even if it hurts.

Even now, 4 months later, I still dream of her sometimes.

I avoid driving alone on long roadtrips because my mind will start wandering.

Don't fvck with LTR, that sh1t will fvck you up.

 

[Jaylan]

15 partners at 21 years of age would turn me off as well. If she was 28 I could understand it, but at 21? No bueno

 

[Jaylan]

^Ok. And? did you read my initial post?

I take numbers into account based on averages. I dont have a magic cut off, where no woman should pass that number if I am to date her. A woman can sleep with under 10 men and be great girlfriend material, or sleep with 10 men and be a skank. Which is why I use average number of partners per year, while also taking into account their relationship and casual hookup history.

And btw, in my dating experience, the women with the least to average amount of partners, have been just as much drama as the women with higher number of partners. Its foolish how dudes get fooled by a low number and assume that automatically means quality (or that its even the truth)

 

[Jaylan]

I read it, and which numbers mean wh0re and which dont can be debated. But which numbers someone feels "comfortable" with is totally irrelevant. Plenty of guys are "comfortable" dating strippers, does that mean dating a stripper is ok, objectively? That's my point. Its "you can't make a ho a housewife", not "you can't make a ho a housewife unless you're ok with making a ho a housewife".

Ho is subjective. Some guys think any woman with more than 5 partners is a ho. However, plenty of women of differing values have 5 sexual partners. Determining whether a woman is relationship material requires more than simply asking her how many men she has slept with (and this can be a lie).

Stripper is not subjective. Its a job that requires taking off clothing for strangers. Therefore we know objectively she will do things a ho does, and be in the company of hos.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Other guys, like myself, understand chicks have sexual desires and needs, so I accept certain types of pasts within reason. Like personally, I dont mind a woman who has a past similar to mine, as Im not a hypocrite.

Men and women are fundamentally different. You can't judge the two sexes by the same standards when it comes to sexual conduct. It's not hypocrisy; it's common sense. Once you've accepted the idea of gender equality (in a social rather than legal sense), you've already lost.

 

[SgtSplacker]

When you get older the number of partners becomes more and more irrelevant. Women are all whoores under some standards, lets face it.

More important is what she values. LISTEN to what she's talking about. What are the things she glorifies and speaks highly of. Then you will know what kind of girl she is.

Stressing over some number she gives you is silly because she's probably lying anyways. Whats important is what that hamster wheel is powering...

 

[n00bPimp]

When you get older the number of partners becomes more and more irrelevant. Women are all whoores under some standards, lets face it.

More important is what she values. LISTEN to what she's talking about. What are the things she glorifies and speaks highly of. Then you will know what kind of girl she is.

Stressing over some number she gives you is silly because she's probably lying anyways. Whats important is what that hamster wheel is powering...

I know that number of partners is not very important anymore. But the girl had threesomes. This means she has zero self respect, and is likely that she will go out and cheat. While women are free to do whatever they want, one cannot make this type of girl into a girlfriend, you are shooting yourself in the foot.
OP its ok to have sex with this girl on a regular basis if you want, but do not make her your gf, you will be deeply hurt in the long run. Plus if she becomes your gf, you will be training your brain to be ok with settling for garbage girls.

There's absolutely no good reason to become attached to a person like this, my experience and the experience of 100% of the people i know have taught me that dating a slut is the greatest mistake you can ever make.

 

[b305d]

15 partners at 21 years of age would turn me off as well. If she was 28 I could understand it, but at 21? No bueno

She's Japanese. That number is massive for us Asians, assuming she's telling the truth and it's not even higher.

The thing about these girls is, in some aspect they're very normal.

We had sex 3-4 times a day, but she wasn't some crazy nympho that begs for it 24/7.

I noticed that she gets a lot wetter than any girls I've been with. The first time I've seen ***** cream outside of porn :crackup:

And she cums every time we have sex. I've never seen a girl do it. In fact, I didn't even knew what it looked like until then.

It looks sorta like a body spasm that last for 10 seconds, no fake scream or anything and then she goes completely dry.

It's annoying when this happens because I have to finish fast or else.

Also, she's the only girl I've ever been with that swallows with a smile on her face.

Can you blame me for getting hooked?

Outside of that, I noticed other odd quirks.

Masculine and very strong personality. It was almost like I'm dating one of my buddies.

Jokes about sex subjects most girls wouldn't joke about.

Very frank about her past history.

Almost like my buddies telling me about the girls they've ****ed.

Sit with one arm spread wide to the side. Something that usually only alpha males do.

Gets bored really fast with guys, doesn't hesitate to dump them.
Had a **** buddy who wanted a relationship but got rejected.

Crazy haircut

Friends who are even bigger slut than she is

Probably would have gotten a tattoo of my name if I went through with it as well.

I really don't understand these girls. A part of me almost want to dissect their brains and look under the microscope.

 

[donking]

I will no longer seriously date a girl who's had more than 5 partners. That said, my last gf had only 2 before me, and she was a HUGE attention ho. Had to dump that too. New one only has 2 as well... will see how it goes. This is the first one where I haven't tapped within 4 dates. She's "religious" hahaha.

 

[b305d]

I will no longer seriously date a girl who's had more than 5 partners. That said, my last gf had only 2 before me, and she was a HUGE attention ho. Had to dump that too. New one only has 2 as well... will see how it goes. This is the first one where I haven't tapped within 4 dates. She's "religious" hahaha.

I think beyond 3 is a sign that they got some issues.

Some guys on this forum always go on about being a man and not caring about their past or not asking any questions.

Ignorance is a bliss until it isn't.

The deceptive part is, everything might be good in the beginning. Everything might be good for years.

As soon as the infatuation fades away, you will see a completely different person.

Whether this person still treats you well depends on their core character and a lot of these girls have no character.

All the DJ will say, you have to keep your frame. Problem is, life's a *****.

Unexpected things will happen. You lose your job, get in accident, fall down sick,etc.

Will these girls still be by your side then?

 

[foreverAFC]

some of you guys should lighten up and get over yourselves, who cares if she was a slut as long as you have fun with her, just have fun, not every woman you hang out with has to be marriage material or close to perfect, if you feel that way then you are in for a lifetime of disappointment

 

[JoeMarron]

Fact: the more partners a woman has the less likely it is that she'll stay faithful. Do with that information what you want. However, obviously just because a chick is a virgin doesn't mean she's a pristine angel who will do you no wrong. It's all about stacking the deck in your favor, the more quality attributes a woman has the better off a relationship with her will be. Of course all of this is only relevant if you care about monogamy.

 

[Jaylan]

Men and women are fundamentally different. You can't judge the two sexes by the same standards when it comes to sexual conduct. It's not hypocrisy; it's common sense. Once you've accepted the idea of gender equality (in a social rather than legal sense), you've already lost.

Yes we are different. But women still very much want and enjoy sex.

Guys here need to make up their mind. You cant have it both ways. You cant expect to sleep around and for women to put out easily, but then later think there will be enough women with low numbers floating around. There are only so much of those women.

Sooner or later dudes gotta be realistic and realize that all sorts of women enjoy getting it in at varying rates. Its not just the sluts out there enjoying various amounts of sex.

I know that number of partners is not very important anymore. But the girl had threesomes. This means she has zero self respect, and is likely that she will go out and cheat. While women are free to do whatever they want, one cannot make this type of girl into a girlfriend, you are shooting yourself in the foot.
OP its ok to have sex with this girl on a regular basis if you want, but do not make her your gf, you will be deeply hurt in the long run. Plus if she becomes your gf, you will be training your brain to be ok with settling for garbage girls.

There's absolutely no good reason to become attached to a person like this, my experience and the experience of 100% of the people i know have taught me that dating a slut is the greatest mistake you can ever make.

Honestly I dont see what 3 somes have to do with cheating. Some people like to experiment, and Ive known people to do that inside relationships. Reality is that Ive seen women who are not interested in 3 somes be straight up cheating skanks...and Ive also know a freaky girl whos had a 3 some or two in her past, but shes loyal as fvk as a friend and girlfriend.

A cheating woman is a woman with a cheating past. If people wanna enjoy their single life a little (within reason), no biggie to me. Just cant be too crazy or too numerous. Like I said, theres more to all this than numbers and 3 somes. You guys realize how many women out there with low numbers have experimented with a 3some? (and sometimes inside a relationship because they or their bf was curious?) Realize that sometimes the same men who want super conservative low number good girl, are the same dudes who end up making you think shes a wh0re.

Now if a girl has a habit of 3 somes, Id agree with you...but if it was a 1 time experiment...its a little offputting, but not the only way to discern if shes girlfriend material. Guys who focus too much on low numbers and lack of sexual experimentation, end up putting low number girls on pedestals and ignoring warning signs that get them in bad situations.

I will no longer seriously date a girl who's had more than 5 partners. That said, my last gf had only 2 before me, and she was a HUGE attention ho. Had to dump that too. New one only has 2 as well... will see how it goes. This is the first one where I haven't tapped within 4 dates. She's "religious" hahaha.

Where are you from? Im curious

But, good luck find women past the age of 25 with a number under 5. I just dont ever come across it anymore. By 25 it seems most women have crossed that point. And bro, youre in your 30s. So unless you have a knack for attracting much younger women, youll either have a lot of women lying to you about their number, or youll have to deal with the fact that after a certain age a chick will have more than 5 partners. And a woman whos 30 could easily have 6 partners be inside a committed relationships.

some of you guys should lighten up and get over yourselves, who cares if she was a slut as long as you have fun with her, just have fun, not every woman you hang out with has to be marriage material or close to perfect, if you feel that way then you are in for a lifetime of disappointment

This.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Yes we are different. But women still very much want and enjoy sex.

Guys here need to make up their mind. You cant have it both ways. You cant expect to sleep around and for women to put out easily, but then later think there will be enough women with low numbers floating around. There are only so much of those women.

Yes, women enjoy sex. But that's hardly a reason to wife up a wh0re. Women who put out easily are good for banging. But they are not good for relationships. Men have known this since the beginning of time.

 

[sylvester the cat]

twice i met girls where i was number 45. one was 21, the other 25. both had issues.

15 partners at 21 suggests some serious self-hatred going on with that chick where sex is used for a temporary hit much like a junkie uses drugs. sooner or later she's going to need a different 'hit' to get her high much like the junkie.

also when someone hates themselves to the degree where they use sex to make themselves feel better you can guarantee that hatred will be projected onto anyone who is unfortunate to date them. as groucho marx said - 'any club that has me as a member can't be worth belonging to' or something like that. take cover and run.