"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Having a videogame console = bad form?

Maxwell

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I currently live in a dorm at University, and I have a game console hooked up to my TV.

If I think a might be able to get a girl back to my room, should I hide it in advance?

Is it likely to be interpreted as a sign of nerdishness or immaturity, which might turn her off?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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JCballin88

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No way man. Almost all guys own video game systems, starting from when they were little. If it's one of the things that you enjoy doing, why should you care what a girl thinks?

Now, if you have like...a Halo lair complete with cardboard cutouts and headsets galore with your online name printed all over the room, then you could scale back. But seriously, don't worry about it. Heck, she might even want to play something with you (but let her suggest it).
 

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Back in the day it might've been an iffy thing, but these days it's not an issue at all. Loads of people have them. Shouldn't be an issue.
 

DonGorgon

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Maxwell said:
I currently live in a dorm at University, and I have a game console hooked up to my TV.

If I think a might be able to get a girl back to my room, should I hide it in advance?

Is it likely to be interpreted as a sign of nerdishness or immaturity, which might turn her off?
PS3 is cool as hell .. cool women will like it but you cant be lame. having a game machine does not matter of she likes you..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maxtro

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There is not wrong with it at all. Just be sure to have a couple of games that girls will like to play with you. Mario Kart, Wii sports, Rockband etc.

Now if I could only figure out how to transition from Mario Kart into sex...
 

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Core issue: Feeling comfortable in your own skin. Everyone has this issue, and they feel like they need to prove themselves to other people - we feel as if parts of our lives, like playing games or whatever, is a drawback. Ever meet a cool guy who embraced himself fully? Who didn't hesitate when someone asked him what games he likes, or other hobby or lifestyle-related questions? THAT is the guy you wanna be.
 

Warrior74

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A well rounded man likes a lot of different things and is ashamed of none of them.
 

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In a college guy's place, it would almost be more unusual for him not to have a video game system, I'd imagine.

My only advice is try to have multiplayer games there. I love playing Mario Kart on the Wii or Rock Band, and have had some great nights with groups of friends playing them.
 

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Alright CatB. Since you are a female coming to a mans forum, you must introduce yourself and tell us about you. We need to know what we're dealing with.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Maxtro said:
There is not wrong with it at all. Just be sure to have a couple of games that girls will like to play with you. Mario Kart, Wii sports, Rockband etc.

Now if I could only figure out how to transition from Mario Kart into sex...
To go from Mario Kart into sex, just get a banana and share it with her. Have her throw the banana peel on you and then spin out onto her! Do it smooth or you'll rank out! It helps to use a Starman!

Never use a lightning bolt or your drive and your speed will shrink drastically.
 

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If she says anything about it, just shrug and say it's your roommate's game system.

But seriously, if that's all it takes to turn her off then she's a nut case to begin with.:crazy:
 
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