Having a problem lately

[Duke26]

First time poster long time reader. I’ve been redpilled for over 2 years now and been much better off since.
Now to my problem. Recently have noticed when I’m about to **** a girl for the first time I get quite nervous and sometimes can’t keep an erection or bust way too soon. Usually just happens first and/or second lay with a new girl then not so much anymore. I know it’s cost me a few more rounds with a HB8.5 among others. She wasn’t pleased lol
Any advice or input from someone who’s experienced the same thing would be appreciated.

 

[Georgepithyou]

I've had this happen with every new girl, literally the only thing you can do is just try to relax and take deep breaths. All you need is more practice with new girls until you no longer care.

Performance Anxiety and Busting too fast are both due to anxiety.

 

[Paper Crane]

Dude man I made a thread about something similar. Try to dig it from my profile. It was one of my first posts on here. I've dealt with premature ejaculation for a long time man but I learned to manage it and do alot more, like I have so much I do when it comes to foreplay, and I also use toys with my girl. It's how I managed to keep a main plate who is 1) a former dancer 2) bottle service girl at one of the hottest clubs in my city 3) an "ig model" with over 60k followers

I also stopped caring about it a long time ago because I got used to one night stands from clubbing alot. Its like if you know you're not going to see the girl again, why care? But, I have some helpful tips if you want to check out that thread

I use thicker condoms sometimes, desensitizing spray, kegels (be careful wiht this one, because if u dnt do kegels right, u can make it far worse)

As far as not being able to keep an erection.. That's something you need to train. its a mental thing you might need to fix but I wouldn't worry about it too much..nothing wrong with stroking your lil man back to action if need be

 

[Duke26]

Thanks fellas. I looked up the thread. Good read!

 

[manfrombelow]

This happens to me occassionally too. Normally it's when the chick is HB 8+, the nervousness of not being able to sexually satisfy her makes me unable to erect. So yeah, this does happen to men.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Thanks fellas. I looked up the thread. Good read!

Are you doing cardio training?

 

[Duke26]

Are you doing cardio training?

Yeah I do a bit but need to do more

 

[bat soup]

First time poster long time reader. I’ve been redpilled for over 2 years now and been much better off since.
Now to my problem. Recently have noticed when I’m about to **** a girl for the first time I get quite nervous and sometimes can’t keep an erection or bust way too soon. Usually just happens first and/or second lay with a new girl then not so much anymore. I know it’s cost me a few more rounds with a HB8.5 among others. She wasn’t pleased lol
Any advice or input from someone who’s experienced the same thing would be appreciated.

I think part of it is controlling what you think about, since a lot of arousal comes from your imagination. If what she's doing or what's happening in the moment doesn't really turn you on, think about something that would. And if you're going to bust too soon, try not to think about those things.

 

[deadmasterx]

Recently have noticed when I’m about to **** a girl for the first time I get quite nervous and sometimes can’t keep an erection or bust way too soon. Usually just happens first and/or second lay with a new girl then not so much anymore.

Most erection problems are thanks to Anxiety. I would love to give you tips and advices here that would straight solve your problem, but I honestly believe that the best thing you can do is go talk with a therapist about it.

 

[Realthangpoon]

For me it doesn’t happen a lot but when ED happens it’s usually a combination of alcohol + performance anxiety.

I had it just this week, came within a minute of ****ing (it’s the nofap but this I never ever had) and then got stressed because of it and couldn’t get hard for round 2. We then had another drink and before I knew it, I was ready for round 2 and 3 (or round 1 and 2 after the warmup...). The girl was sweet about it too which is really nice. Just remember that it happens to the best and don’t fret about because this is what can really cause problems in the future.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Yeah I do a bit but need to do more

More cardio makes you last longer. So depending on how much "a bit" is, try more.

 

[Lookatu]

Sometimes all it boils down to is your comfort level with her. Guys are automatically programmed to wanna smash as soon as possible, but some don't realize they aren't ready yet(mentally). Apart from low T, psychologically you may not be ready because you're either too nervous/anxiety due to try to force things on an artificial pre-programmed time line and possibly with the wrong person(pvssy just for the sake of pvssy). Just another possibility...

Not all guys can just get up and perform.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

First time poster long time reader. I’ve been redpilled for over 2 years now and been much better off since.
Now to my problem. Recently have noticed when I’m about to **** a girl for the first time I get quite nervous and sometimes can’t keep an erection or bust way too soon. Usually just happens first and/or second lay with a new girl then not so much anymore. I know it’s cost me a few more rounds with a HB8.5 among others. She wasn’t pleased lol
Any advice or input from someone who’s experienced the same thing would be appreciated.

The first two things you should do are:

1. Take that HB8+ off the pedestal. She isn't a mythical creature you need to worship or be intimidated of.
2. Forget everything Porn has taught you about sex.

Media has drilled in us that these HB8+ are like goddesses that are almost out of reach and we only get to see them on IG as influencers or what have you. Truth be told, their "beauty" status actually makes them very unapproachable and are less secure than the average. So if you were to have an honest convo with them, you would see they are less than mythical creatures. Therefore, when you see them at your level you will not overthink and be able to perform.

Most men think that going at it like a jackrabbit is pleasurablee for her. This is due to Porn for the most part aka ignorance. And while at times you do want to be rough and go hard, for the most part, women like it slow if you know how to move. Men need to learn more about how women work in sex. Check out https://badgirlsbible.com/, we actually find that site quite useful.

Now the practicalities, for premature ejaculation, understand it is a fairly common condition among men. Somewhere around 3 out of 5 men experience some type of PE. Butt there are ways to combat this:

• Wear a condom. Avoid the thin condoms and go for the rather think ones.
• Use either a spray or wipe to desensitize your penis. Go to Target and you will find K&Y https://www.k-y.com/products/k-y-duration-desensitizing-delay-spray-for-men or check out https://www.getroman.com/premature-ejaculation/swipes/ . We suggest going for the wipes are they are odorless and tasteless. The last thing you want to do is have her notice or numb her vagina/mouth in the process.
• Do exercises (there are two) to strengthen the muscles that control your urine and ejaculation. Check out our website, we wrote an article about it.

Anyways, hope this helps man.

Let us know if you have any questions.

Modern Man Advice

 

[EyeBRollin]

Stop concerning yourself with pleasing her. That is submissive behavior. She should be concerned with pleasing you.

My sex game grew substantially when I stopped caring about performance. Not only do I last longer, I bring a sense of entitlement into the bedroom. Most of a woman’s sexual pleasure comes from her feelings towards you. Make her heart tingle and the body will follow.

 

[Dash Riprock]

10-20 mgs Sildenafil 30-60 minutes before sex. Works for me every time, whether I've been drinking, the girl is a HB9.9, whatever. I'm probably in the top 1% of all men my age for health and wellness. I use as insurance. Delays my orgasm too. I've had women tell me to stop, they're getting sore, etc., lol. Seems to last into morning too.

Problem solved.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

10-20 mgs Sildenafil 30-60 minutes before sex. Works for me every time, whether I've been drinking, the girl is a HB9.9, whatever. I'm probably in the top 1% of all men my age for health and wellness. I use as insurance. Delays my orgasm too. I've had women tell me to stop, they're getting sore, etc., lol. Seems to last into morning too.

Problem solved.

I am lucky enough to be able to do that without using that but I have the occasional issue here and there also...usually when my hormones get out of whack.

 

[Duke26]

10-20 mgs Sildenafil 30-60 minutes before sex. Works for me every time, whether I've been drinking, the girl is a HB9.9, whatever. I'm probably in the top 1% of all men my age for health and wellness. I use as insurance. Delays my orgasm too. I've had women tell me to stop, they're getting sore, etc., lol. Seems to last into morning too.

Problem solved.

I was hoping to not have to go to the blue pills just yet lol ( I’m 27 ). I’ve tried horny goat weed twice now but haven’t noticed any results from it yet.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I was hoping to not have to go to the blue pills just yet lol ( I’m 27 ). I’ve tried horny goat weed twice now but haven’t noticed any results from it yet.

The side effects are pretty benign...you can get cheap generics from alldaychemist.com, I've been using it for years without issue.

It's nice to be able to **** without having to worry about ever losing your rod. I can literally go down on a girl for 10 min and still be hard and **** her right after.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

First time poster long time reader. I’ve been redpilled for over 2 years now and been much better off since.
Now to my problem. Recently have noticed when I’m about to **** a girl for the first time I get quite nervous and sometimes can’t keep an erection or bust way too soon. Usually just happens first and/or second lay with a new girl then not so much anymore. I know it’s cost me a few more rounds with a HB8.5 among others. She wasn’t pleased lol
Any advice or input from someone who’s experienced the same thing would be appreciated.

Being lazy and haven't read thru the thread posts

Try some viagra. You'll keep the erection and have enough for a second nut, which won't be as quick as the first.

You can get it through Roman, just have to consult with a Dr via Zoom. Google "roman viagra"

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I was hoping to not have to go to the blue pills just yet lol ( I’m 27 ). I’ve tried horny goat weed twice now but haven’t noticed any results from it yet.

Limiting belief. You're not old and you don't need it for ED. You need it for performance anxiety and premature ejaculation. Different things.