"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Having a hard time reading what she is after

BrockLee74

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I work with this woman. She is very attractive. for the bulk of this year she has been shooting signals at me, but I ignore them as we work together. Initially I didn't want to introduce drama into the workplace. However, over recent times she has been reduced down to working there one day a week. So I am open to bending the rules here as she is hardly ever around.

She comes off as hot and cold. One day she would touch me and engage me, the next she would be cold and distant. I just rolled along with it. I didn't care about the outcome, and it almost came in predictable cycles.

A month ago things changed a little. She asked for my number. I gave it to her and did not ask for hers. Instead I told her acceptable times to call me. A week passes, no call. I took the day off she worked next, so another week passes, no call. Then a fellow employee tells me this woman lost my number, here is her number and call ASAP. I call a couple days later and she is very apologetic. I told her it happens, no worries. She says "Now that we have each others numbers, we should hang out". I laugh at that as we live 100 miles apart. I only go that way to work. Later when we are talking about my business, she says "I will have to come up and have you show me your shop." I tell her any time.

We worked together the other day, the first time in 3 weeks. At first she came off as cold again. I even saw her hug and kiss a guy on the cheek right in front of me. I just played it cool. At the very end of the night she warmed up, complimented a shirt I was wearing, touched me a little, and said she would call me.

I received a text today and she says she will be in my area. Interesting as she has told me she had only been in my area twice in her whole life. Anyway, she wanted to know if I would be interested in having dinner with her.

I suspect she may be an attention *****. But would she bother putting this much effort into it? I have to believe there are other options closer to home. Is she a player? I get the vibe she embellishes elements of her life to make them appear more interesting and lucrative than they actually are.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DragonBlood

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BrockLee74 said:
she says "I will have to come up and have you show me your shop." I tell her any time.

We worked together the other day, the first time in 3 weeks. At first she came off as cold again.
Of course she comes up cold. Why havent you made your move yet? She wants to come to YOU in private. She is interested. As for embellishing herself, always nice when they are trying to impress you.
 

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She pretty much asked you out and did all the work for you. You pick a place and time for her to show that your comfortable in also being in control and aren't a boring turd that wants to do whatever she wants, and you'll probably be golden. She's probably not looking for a relationship, though, she's probably spinning plates just like you. But, so what? Add a new **** buddy to your list.
 
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