"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Having a girlfriend usually keeps me motivated in life

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hm now that I think more about it, let me explain:

If you're in a LTR, you might not necessarily be motivated, maybe even the opposite and you get complacent, it depends on how you perceive the girl. But one thing you will have is more stability always having someone there for you.

One can become very motivated when they are single and they want to improve their looks and what not, but I feel that it only lasts a finite amount of time. It's like being pumped on adrenaline. If you go for too long being single without getting a desirable gf, you can also very easily fall back into being complacent because you aren't seeing results. These are not theories, they're experiences.

I'll give you an example from a movie of what I mean about how a gf can keep me more motivated. Have you guys seen the movie, "As Good As It Gets" where Jack Nicholson's character says to the girl "You make me want to be a better man." It's like that. The guy was already a successful best selling novelist and lived in a nice apartment and did whatever he wanted, but having someone he desired in his life gave him that extra inspiration.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You become like the people around you.

There is a simple rule of life that I'm sure many of the DJs here already know, but maybe you younger guys don't: you become like the people you surround yourself with. If all your buddies are druggies who smoke pot all day and watch anime and never go out to meet chics, guess what, you will probably do the same.

If all your buddies are hard-working, successful guys who live life to the fullest and love going out to meet new women, well guess what, you will emulate them.

The same applies to the woman (or women) in your life. If she is a high quality person those qualities will rub off on you and inspire you to be a better person. If she is a low quality person she will eventually drag you into her pit of destruction.

In the end though, I feel a person should make their own happiness, and a significant other is just the icing on the cake.
 
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