actually, why do you think that movie stars CAN'T make an LTR work-
because they have too many options. because they really CAN get sex often and regularly without LTRs.
contrary to what was written, this is NOT the case with most people.
especially as people begin to age, their options continue to diminish and dwindle.
THAT is why we get into LTRs and marriage. eventually, it's so that you can fvck regularly, don't end up alone and there is someone there to take care of you. also, there have been many surveys saying that regular sex is faaaaaar more likely for people in relationships compared to singles. most singles aren't the ideal superhotties fing every night. alas....
make no mistake, in many many ways, an ltr and marriage is basically about SETTLING. in one way or another.
if you are a man and FILTHY RICH, there would be no overriding reason to get married and many reasons to avoid it. because your options will ALWAYS be open.
again, not the case with most.
you have to strike while the iron is hot and realize that the window does not stay open indefinitely. LTRs are a pragmatic thing and wouldn't exist without the necessity of it. even psychologically speaking, women tend to lose interest in sex as the years wear on their attention becomes devoted to kids. we actually SHOULDN'T be in LTRs if our happiness is the prime concern. but pragmatic necessity for both man and women made it the most economical solution, evolutionarily speaking, so here we are.
i know. it's cynical. and it's not pleasant. but it seems to me that that's what's what.
delta
p.s. it's not really fear either. cynicism fueled by disappointment and frustration perhaps. but the cynic can be right - BY VIRTUE - of being outside of it. but disagree as you will. i enjoy these discussions without any need for consensus. makes it more interesting in fact and hey, my mind can be changed.
