TheWingMan
Don Juan
Day 5
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Exactly. It's dumb if you ask me. You waited that long to get laughed at by the girl you're with just because you bust a nut before even sticking it incuzza said:I see this going only one way. You stop masturbating for a month. You eventually (probably not if masturbation is such a big issue for you) manage to get with a girl. You last all of 2 seconds.
To me this is stupid.
That isnt necessarily true...I didnt jerk it for a week and then I got head from my gf and I lasted over 20 minClench2465 said:Exactly. It's dumb if you ask me. You waited that long to get laughed at by the girl you're with just because you bust a nut before even sticking it in
Do all of these changes go away after you've had sex as well? Or is it only if you masturbate? If the latter, what do you guys figure is the chemical or psychological difference between an orgasm via a bang and an orgasm via masturbation?ediceneet12 said:In these 27 days I have noticed several changes
my confidence has increased
my self esteem has improved
my conversation skills have gotten better
my anxiety is virtually non existent
When you masterbate you dont experience the strong emotions you experience with another human witch helps stress and have other healthy benefits for health. It's a huge difference.TheCWord said:Do all of these changes go away after you've had sex as well? Or is it only if you masturbate? If the latter, what do you guys figure is the chemical or psychological difference between an orgasm via a bang and an orgasm via masturbation?
I am also aware, while asking this, that most guys involved in this experiment don't seem to be getting laid... But if you're one of the few, very interested to hear your take.
No I am not getting laid, for an AFC like myself it gives me a nice little placebo effect.. though I've heard tons of stories of other people who have quit masturbation entirely and saw improvement's in there everyday life.TheCWord said:Do all of these changes go away after you've had sex as well? Or is it only if you masturbate? If the latter, what do you guys figure is the chemical or psychological difference between an orgasm via a bang and an orgasm via masturbation?
I am also aware, while asking this, that most guys involved in this experiment don't seem to be getting laid... But if you're one of the few, very interested to hear your take.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.