TheWingMan
Don Juan
Day 5
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Exactly. It's dumb if you ask me. You waited that long to get laughed at by the girl you're with just because you bust a nut before even sticking it incuzza said:I see this going only one way. You stop masturbating for a month. You eventually (probably not if masturbation is such a big issue for you) manage to get with a girl. You last all of 2 seconds.
To me this is stupid.
That isnt necessarily true...I didnt jerk it for a week and then I got head from my gf and I lasted over 20 minClench2465 said:Exactly. It's dumb if you ask me. You waited that long to get laughed at by the girl you're with just because you bust a nut before even sticking it in
Do all of these changes go away after you've had sex as well? Or is it only if you masturbate? If the latter, what do you guys figure is the chemical or psychological difference between an orgasm via a bang and an orgasm via masturbation?ediceneet12 said:In these 27 days I have noticed several changes
my confidence has increased
my self esteem has improved
my conversation skills have gotten better
my anxiety is virtually non existent
When you masterbate you dont experience the strong emotions you experience with another human witch helps stress and have other healthy benefits for health. It's a huge difference.TheCWord said:Do all of these changes go away after you've had sex as well? Or is it only if you masturbate? If the latter, what do you guys figure is the chemical or psychological difference between an orgasm via a bang and an orgasm via masturbation?
I am also aware, while asking this, that most guys involved in this experiment don't seem to be getting laid... But if you're one of the few, very interested to hear your take.
No I am not getting laid, for an AFC like myself it gives me a nice little placebo effect.. though I've heard tons of stories of other people who have quit masturbation entirely and saw improvement's in there everyday life.TheCWord said:Do all of these changes go away after you've had sex as well? Or is it only if you masturbate? If the latter, what do you guys figure is the chemical or psychological difference between an orgasm via a bang and an orgasm via masturbation?
I am also aware, while asking this, that most guys involved in this experiment don't seem to be getting laid... But if you're one of the few, very interested to hear your take.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.