"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Haven't called in 2 weeks. Too late now?

Army Strong

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I hung out with a girl a couple weeks ago, who I feel is attracted to me although she was very ambiguous. Anyway, I lost her number so I haven't called since.

I found it today in my pants' pocket all washed up but still readable, but there is a solid chance I'll see her this next Wednesday.

Now my question is: should I call today, wait till I see her, or have these two weeks of no contact ruined my chances with her?

P.S. I get so exited when I see a response to one of my threads for some reason. I get little butterflies in my stomach. I know it's gay, but your DJ input is so damn valuable. :D
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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HeyPachuco!

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Why did you No Contact her for 2 weeks in the first place?

Maybe if you reveal this, is where you can get a more detailed specific responsive advice, but judging from no response from her in two weeks. I'll say it's pretty safe to shoot a text atleast, DON'T CALL. If she replies to you're text, flirt abit to get her high points, then either DROP her in dead air entirely and THEN CALL as you can re-start again off that high point you ended on with phone-conversation instead. Just text her something like, "Have You been Behaving (Insert knickname or Witty teasing) Since I've been Gone" or "Stop Thinking About Me!" in a playfull manner. If she doesn't text back, leave it and move on.
 

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HeyPachuco! said:
Just text her...
Can't, she game her house number.

I prefer talking to her face to face, so I'll wait till Wednesday. Any advice on what I should do in terms of explaining to her why I haven't called in a way that'll minimize any negative consequences or even make me more attractive to her?

I know I'm overlooking this but I really like this chick. :)
 

HeyPachuco!

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Army Strong said:
Can't, she game her house number
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Wow, a chick who doesn't have a mobile in this modern day? :whistle: Theres so much material here that you could be busting her balls on, dude. LOL

Any advice on what I should do in terms of explaining to her why I haven't called in a way that'll minimize any negative consequences or even make me more attractive to her?
Being busy. Being busy is always an attractive perk. Letting her know that you're active, suggests alot to her. This shows that you have things going on in you're life, dude. It sub-communicates to her "woman code" that you're a leader or have sense of leadership. Scarcity is ALWAYS attractive and I am a advocate of it. If you're making her the 2nd-to-something in you're daily-life, make sure you're time with her is MEMORABLE and fun. Lie if you have to.

P.S. Don't be a pr1ck and tell her you forgot all about her or you lost her number in some James Bond voice, that doesn't breed anything. It's try-hard.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You're thinking to much about the little things. It dosen't matter, if she decided she likes you "that way" it's hard to skrew up. Follow your gut in this situation. :yes:
 

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HeyPachuco! said:
Being busy. Being busy is always an attractive perk. Letting her know that you're active, suggests alot to her. This shows that you have things going on in you're life, dude. It sub-communicates to her "woman code" that you're a leader or have sense of leadership. Scarcity is ALWAYS attractive and I am a advocate of it. If you're making her the 2nd-to-something in you're daily-life, make sure you're time with her is MEMORABLE and fun. Lie if you have to.
Wise man you are. That is exactly what I'll do.

HeyPachuco! said:
Wow, a chick who doesn't have a mobile in this modern day? :whistle: Theres so much material here that you could be busting her balls on, dude. LOL
I know, but I don't have one either. :D

That's one of the reasons why I like her and why I think she likes me; we are like mirror images of each other with a lot of things especially when it comes to dreams, ambitions, etc. We're both in the Army to kick-start our career in law enforcement.
 
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Go ahead and text her. Let her think about why you disappeared for so long. Its also good that you found out the extent to which she is willing to push back when you pull, and well she hasn't done jack squat which really shows you how far back she should be in your ho lineup. This is the type of girl to text and be strict with ("Hey, come over to my house on Friday and lets watch a movie",basically an invitation like that cause she will either come to over and give it up or do what she's been doing and that is not contacting you.
 

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After two weeks? Good luck dude.

Be honest about what happened...although I don't understand why YOU didn't have a cell either.
 

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She told me she wants to marry a soldier and that she loves a man in uniform knowing, that that's exactly what I want to be.

Does this mean anything significant?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hahaha... I have a girls number that I haven't called in 3 WEEKS!!!! and I still plan on calling her. I plan on making up some excuse like I was out of town for a while. lol. we'll see how it works!
 

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Army Strong said:
She told me she wants to marry a soldier and that she loves a man in uniform knowing, that that's exactly what I want to be.

Does this mean anything significant?
Yeah, it means that she wants to marry a guy in uniform. However in another year or so she will be chasing after some loser drug thug on a Harley because he is "exciting".
Women are somewhat unpredictable, son.
 

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i have females numbers i havent called in months (mostly females i went to college with)
 
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