Is this a problem? Because I took this girl on dates and other places, and she seemed like she liked me. I stopped contact with her, but she hasn't texted me in like a week in a half and she talks and hangs out with all her other guy friends. I'm way better looking than them too lol. I thought I would at least been friend zoned. It just feels awkward that we did so much together and it doesn't even end in a friendship or something. This has happened to also the other girls I've talked to and nexted.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Thats false friendship. Why would you want that?JPlaya said:
You step to a female and she either is down for your game or not. The "Friendzone" is for men who cant accept the fact that they were rejected by the female so they loiter around in hopes of getting some charity puzzy down the line. smh
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SeymourCake
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JPlaya said:
Don't feel bad man. I smoked this girl out with a joint last week and we had a variety of discussions while high and overall had a good chilled out time at her house. When she dropped me off, we gave each other a hug and she swore she said she would smoke me out one day. To this day, she has never called me, texted me, or got in any form of contact with me. I must admit though, I called her the next two or three nights after we chilled and she was too busy hanging out with everyone else. I stopped calling her when it immediately went to voice mail after it rang a couple of times. Like most girls who post statuses about their lives on twitter, it was evident that she was hanging out with a lot of other dudes as well. After three days, I stopped giving a fvck. It's time to move on to something better.
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You haven't wasted a month because if you look at it, you gained a month full of experience on how some women work. Your experience is what makes you who you are today. Use this to your advantage, learn from your mistakes and keep that experience in mind when you're dealing with women in the future.JPlaya said:
A month?! If I talk to a girl for an hour and nothing happens I feel like I wasted my time. A month just means you never escalated.JPlaya said:
Always. Be. Escalating. You want the girl to make a decision about you, either yes or no, so you're not wasting your time.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Sadly, all the survivors from the Titanic have passed.JPlaya said:
You just really need to be escalating.
If you wait too late to initiate and escalate, at 8, you will masturbate. So don't contemplate.
KingBeef
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You don't want female friends, you want female acquaintances who fulfill an exact purpose in your life (friends with benefits, social proof, etc.).
And when you decide to have them, make sure they're hot...
And when you decide to have them, make sure they're hot...
DonJuanabe
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To turn a girl into a friend with benefits (or to have her reconsider dating you) you cannot, under any circumstances, ask her to do so. Never. Don't debate her, argue with her, rationalize with her, nothing. All that will do is make you look needy. The only shot you have is to do something that elevates you in her eyes. I can't tell you what that behavior should be, it can vary depending on all sorts of things, but she must feel differently about you due to your actions.