Is this a problem? Because I took this girl on dates and other places, and she seemed like she liked me. I stopped contact with her, but she hasn't texted me in like a week in a half and she talks and hangs out with all her other guy friends. I'm way better looking than them too lol. I thought I would at least been friend zoned. It just feels awkward that we did so much together and it doesn't even end in a friendship or something. This has happened to also the other girls I've talked to and nexted.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Have zero girl friends
- Thread starter JPlaya
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thats false friendship. Why would you want that?JPlaya said:
You step to a female and she either is down for your game or not. The "Friendzone" is for men who cant accept the fact that they were rejected by the female so they loiter around in hopes of getting some charity puzzy down the line. smh
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
SeymourCake
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JPlaya said:
Don't feel bad man. I smoked this girl out with a joint last week and we had a variety of discussions while high and overall had a good chilled out time at her house. When she dropped me off, we gave each other a hug and she swore she said she would smoke me out one day. To this day, she has never called me, texted me, or got in any form of contact with me. I must admit though, I called her the next two or three nights after we chilled and she was too busy hanging out with everyone else. I stopped calling her when it immediately went to voice mail after it rang a couple of times. Like most girls who post statuses about their lives on twitter, it was evident that she was hanging out with a lot of other dudes as well. After three days, I stopped giving a fvck. It's time to move on to something better.
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You haven't wasted a month because if you look at it, you gained a month full of experience on how some women work. Your experience is what makes you who you are today. Use this to your advantage, learn from your mistakes and keep that experience in mind when you're dealing with women in the future.JPlaya said:
A month?! If I talk to a girl for an hour and nothing happens I feel like I wasted my time. A month just means you never escalated.JPlaya said:
Always. Be. Escalating. You want the girl to make a decision about you, either yes or no, so you're not wasting your time.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Sadly, all the survivors from the Titanic have passed.JPlaya said:
You just really need to be escalating.
If you wait too late to initiate and escalate, at 8, you will masturbate. So don't contemplate.
KingBeef
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You don't want female friends, you want female acquaintances who fulfill an exact purpose in your life (friends with benefits, social proof, etc.).
And when you decide to have them, make sure they're hot...
And when you decide to have them, make sure they're hot...
DonJuanabe
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To turn a girl into a friend with benefits (or to have her reconsider dating you) you cannot, under any circumstances, ask her to do so. Never. Don't debate her, argue with her, rationalize with her, nothing. All that will do is make you look needy. The only shot you have is to do something that elevates you in her eyes. I can't tell you what that behavior should be, it can vary depending on all sorts of things, but she must feel differently about you due to your actions.