"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Have you ever filmed yourself in a social interaction?

Huffman

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Whenever I see videos with myself in them, I notice that I don't appear as suave as I imagine myself to be.

Now I want to get lots of footage of myself so I can work on how I truly look. You know, like a musician will record himself to analyze his playing.

You think there's a good way to do that? I can't really carry a camera around with me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Who Dares Win

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I saw myself in pictures and short clip taken with friends, to be honest Im surprised I managed to have a decent sexual life, Im serious no jokes in here.

If I were to see someone else behaving like I do I would be in doubt if to beat him or help him or even both.

I guess we all have a wrong perception of ourselves and how we should be.
 

MtnMan

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i hate how i look in pictures and videos, its strange. It would definitely be interesting to take some field footage to analyze later. Especially when the drinks are flowing.
 

apprenticedj

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I think this would be brillant idea for most of us, pretty cringeworthy I'm sure but helpful none the less.

Maybe look into one of those tiny lapel cams? Something that's about button sized, maybe put it in your hat.

God help you if you get caught though, it would look very odd to most.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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