"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Have you ever felt this way or am I weird?

Blaise

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Never ever really "liked" girls. I mean there have only been two but that's it.

I'm not saying I'm gay or whatever (never been turned on by a guy lol). I'm attracted to girls and I would definitely tap that hot ass that walks by the street (its in my nature). But it doesn't necessarily mean I "like" her.

like, infatuated, seduced, whatever... I mean it might be a good idea that I don't "like" girls since I won't get attached easily.

Question to vet DJs:
Ever felt like you could meet someone who has the same ideals as you or someone you can just naturally click with all the time and also be your lover (had that but no lover part)? Something like a soulmate?

Or the fact that there really are no soulmates exist and this is part of being a hopeless romantic (which I was/am and want to get out of)? :kick:

Just wanna know your take/experience.

I just wanna restate that women aren't my main priority, but helping myself reach my potential and find genuine happiness for myself. That's why I'm here.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ice882

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I've never really loved a girl. I've certainly liked them, though. I'm young, though.
 

sodbuster

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Feel that way all the time,Women are only good for sex and kids. After that, I'd rather talk to a man,be friends with a man, etc. At least we usually have SOME sense of decency and honor.
 

Blaise

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sodbuster said:
Feel that way all the time,Women are only good for sex and kids. After that, I'd rather talk to a man,be friends with a man, etc. At least we usually have SOME sense of decency and honor.
Thanks. Just need a friend like in "I Love You, Man". It's hard to find a good buddy who likes the same activities and understands you and also doesn't flake and ****.

I met a girl like that and best friends 2 years but you know how that ends.

So I'm guessing there's no woman that's best of both worlds... :down:
 

zekko

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So I'm guessing there's no woman that's best of both worlds...
It's interesting to me to see all the guys who post on here who are actually only interested in women for sex. I think they make pretty good companions honestly (well, the quality ones anyway). I don't mean as "friends" becaue I am always skeptical about male/female friendships. But if you find a girl you like who shares your values and goals, I think relationships can be quite enjoyable.

There's something about the personality of women that meshes well with a man and compliments him. There isn't that competitiveness that's usually present in friendships with men. I would much rather go out and do something with a woman than with a guy, as long as she's cool. Yeah, at some point I'm going to want sex from her, but that just adds another element. Vive le difference, as they say. So yeah, I like girls.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Exhumed

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I think girls are entertaining, but I disagree about the competition...only my insecure friends are competitive socially, and being competitive at sports and videogames and whatnot is a good thing. Sh!t tests are a form of competition...girls are always testing my dominance, whereas with my male friends, as long as I don't take sh!t from them initially they don't really do that.
 

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I felt this way when I wasn't getting laid.
When I stared getting women in my life and sex from them I somehow want to know more of them :)
 
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