AlmostThere!
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I have...more than once. Just curious how the rest of the community feels.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Have you ever felt suicidal because of girls?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
I've felt this only one time and never after and didn't actually stop on thinking! Went to hospital and got my stomach cleaned! Bad story... I was way too young and fool I guess! :/
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
AlmostThere!
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I'm surprised too at the amount of yes'es.
KontrollerX
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Co-sign.Desdinova said:
I was so low after a breakup once that i was afraid I was going to become suicidal, so I saw a therapist and got on meds, which worked wonders for me personally, so I guess thats a no. My home town has a really bad track record for guys killing themselves over girls. I didnt want to feel that way, and I was scared I was going to get worse, so I did something about it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PRMoon
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Suicidal yes briefly. Over a girl? Never. I've never even come close to the notion of ending it all over a person in our around my life. There are certainly issues that have seemed very overwhelming to me but i can't put an individuals name on them.
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DonJuanit0 said:
Same I tried to clear two bottles of industrial sized Jack Daniels, got through one and a quarter of the second one and was hospitalised, it was the worst New Years Eve I have endured, almost four years ago now. Since then I have vowed never to let a woman or anyone make me so weak, I could died and all because of some wh*re.
Of course no chance of that happening again, Sosuave has taught how to deal with women.
Colossus
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When I was younger I went through periods of legitimate clinical depression accompanied by suicidal thoughts. I never acted on it. It was usually catalyzed by a rejection from a girl, but I always knew there were deeper issues there. In college I went to see a therapist about this stuff, and it did worlds of good. I never believed in meds unless it was a biochemical problem that couldn't be solved cognitively. Most problems can.
blinkwatt101
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Personally I haven't, some members of my family are the coolest people that I can imagine and if I'm ever down(for any reason) I can count on them to cheer me back up.
One of my friends has been in a mental facility after a mental breakdown after his girlfriend left him and he threatened to kill himself with a knife on her lawn.
One of my friends has been in a mental facility after a mental breakdown after his girlfriend left him and he threatened to kill himself with a knife on her lawn.
Cry For Love
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Not a day goes by that I don't think about it.
I've been seeing a counselor at my university once a week for the past 2 months. While it's great to actually talk to somebody about how I feel; I knew she was too inexperienced to actually provide any guidance.
If nothing changes I don't plan to make it to 30. If I can't find a girl when I'm in college how the hell am going to find one elsewhere?
The last thing I want to do is be an 'adult' going to work every day and coming home to my empty house. That isn't living.
I've been seeing a counselor at my university once a week for the past 2 months. While it's great to actually talk to somebody about how I feel; I knew she was too inexperienced to actually provide any guidance.
If nothing changes I don't plan to make it to 30. If I can't find a girl when I'm in college how the hell am going to find one elsewhere?
The last thing I want to do is be an 'adult' going to work every day and coming home to my empty house. That isn't living.
Quiksilver
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I couldn't imagine ever feeling truly down about a girl... Haven't met one yet who was worth even being depressed about.
I think the real question is:
"Have you ever felt suicidal because of YOURSELF?"
If YOU suck, then sure it can be depressing, but you can always do positive stuff to improve yourself, and it feels good doing that.
A good positive thought for those who think themselves as pathetic:
Your ancestral genetics go back millions and billions of years, and all of them were able to get laid. The difference? They didn't have the internet, they didn't have moms basement, and they had responsibility.
99% of guys who don't get laid these days spend far too much time at home and on the internet, and have very little responsibility. Get a job, move into your own place, get a small pet, get some hobbies, and make some friends.
I think the real question is:
"Have you ever felt suicidal because of YOURSELF?"
If YOU suck, then sure it can be depressing, but you can always do positive stuff to improve yourself, and it feels good doing that.
A good positive thought for those who think themselves as pathetic:
Your ancestral genetics go back millions and billions of years, and all of them were able to get laid. The difference? They didn't have the internet, they didn't have moms basement, and they had responsibility.
99% of guys who don't get laid these days spend far too much time at home and on the internet, and have very little responsibility. Get a job, move into your own place, get a small pet, get some hobbies, and make some friends.
The_flying_dutchman
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I've felt suicidal at a few points in my life because of girls in general, but never over a specific girl. I only just pondered it.
The one time in my life when I seriously contemplated and would have actually carried out a suicide was because of financial disaster. I'm happy to say that after a lot of hard work that I got my life back on track. And I try to be thankful for it everyday though I confess that sometimes I take what I have for granted.
The one time in my life when I seriously contemplated and would have actually carried out a suicide was because of financial disaster. I'm happy to say that after a lot of hard work that I got my life back on track. And I try to be thankful for it everyday though I confess that sometimes I take what I have for granted.
Da Realist
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I've had those thoughts, but there was something in me that basically called me to keep living and fighting. That's when I realized I didn't want to die: I just wanted to get myself out of that mess.
Maxtro
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How would moving out of the country change anything? The only thing that would happen is that I would lose what ever of a support network I have that is my family.fuzzx said:
You don't know much about depression do you?Quiksilver said:
Getting a job and supporting yourself have no affect on depression, it may make actually it worse because of the loneliness that is associated to coming home to an empty home.
Having hobbies and friends are essential but it's not easy to get either.
When one is depressed it's hard to really enjoy doing anything. This past year I've tried playing softball, surfing and salsa dancing and I don't love any of them. The reasons why I don't fully enjoy any of those ties into my second point.
Making friends is much harder than people assume it is. I don't know how many years it's been that I had a real friend. The only person that I even hung out with in 5 or so years was some dumb bitch that I had oneitis for.
I feel like I'm stuck in a downward spiral, losing track of the reasons why I should keep on trying.
Every single day is wake up, go to school, come home, play video games, go to bed. One some weekends I don't even leave my apartment.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.