Have you ever felt shame?

[tesla8520]

HI!

Today I would like to talk to you about a problem that afflicts me in general when I am out there with people, whether it is with friends, or in general in public places, it can be any occasion in which there is a social setting. Even with women.

I am usually a person who takes more initiative than others, I manage to speak or do things that others don't do, but in particular moments, I feel "ashamed", now I don't know how to explain this well, but it's as if I fear that there will be a moment in which everyone turns towards me in silence and starts laughing and this could make me feel ashamed.

So what happens is that when it's my time to speak or do something that I have eyes on, I start to feel this sense of shame, rather than being calm and enjoying it, I'm ashamed,

If I have this sense of shame, what does it depend on?
Did they do this to me as a child?
How can I fix it?

I was thinking about fixing it through exposure, sure, and throuh experience, but the thing is, I can't understand why I have this automatic sensation in my body in these settings.
So, I would like to understand the cause, and then design something to reprogram you.

Has anyone lived with this?

 

[sevbucmash]

You have too little **** going on in your life, on purpose, a lot of time to think about bull**** like this.

fixing it through exposure

Yes, but only the right type of exposure. Go get working hard, until work becomes your life. Then no time to think about crap like that. Better yet, work that deals with people, it will make you a psychologist as you begin to recognize patterns with people.

That will lead to your new identity, which will exclude negative that you described.