"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Have You Ever Felt Like You’re Not Enough for Her?

Pumax

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Hi guys!

Have you ever had the feeling that you don’t approach a woman. or don’t ask her out, because you believe you’re simply not enough for her?

Let me give you an example.
I have a single female friend (but this happened multiple times), who comes from a socioeconomic background that is significantly wealthier than mine.

Her father runs four companies. Her family travels every couple of months, they own houses and villas with swimming pools, and overall, they live a lifestyle that is far more luxurious than mine.

I’m not much of a traveler. I’m a saver. I live a very frugal lifestyle.

So I don’t ask her out, because I feel I already know she would probably have something to say about my lifestyle, and I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world. That’s the feeling I’m talking about: you know who you are, you know the kind of life you want to live, and you know you’re not willing to compromise on it.

Not even for a woman who is wealthier than you or accustomed to a more luxurious lifestyle.

So what do you do in these scenarios?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Prepostereax

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In general, you approach or not, depending on how much you like her and how well you two connect.
Peripheral stuff like what her folks do, comes after, maybe if you wanna get into something long-term

This is your problem:
I have a single female friend
You are in her friendzone, her orbit.
Doesn't matter whether she drives a maserati or a moped.
 

Pumax

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You are in her friendzone, her orbit.
I mean the word friend is not friend but someone i know.
I'm not her friend.
I've expressed myself badly.

In general, you approach or not, depending on how much you like her and how well you two connect.
Peripheral stuff like what her folks do, comes after, maybe if you wanna get into something long-term
Okay, so you say you approach either way.
But, what happen next if you both want LTR?
 

Clockwerk50

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If you think so little of yourself that you assume you’re not enough for a woman, you obviously have self-esteem, insecurity, and confidence issues.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

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