"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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have you ever dated a girl who wasn't all there?

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I was thinking of this girl I dated a few months back, and in hindsight it seemed like her head wasn't really there...like I was talking to a shell or a person who's hypnotized.

I mean she talked to me in conversations, but she seemed very childish and aloof. I don't know if she took drugs before or something. At the time of dating, I didn't notice anything, I just thought maybe she's kind of different, but now that I think of it more, her whole presense seems very odd. Has anyone had similar experiences?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Their was a girl I used to work with that had the same symptoms.
She would just seem uncomfortable ALL the time around ANYONE, not just me.

Come to find out she had in the past experiences with crystal meth...so yea their all on drugs. Simply put
 

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Some PEOPLE (not just girls) simply are lacking in ... um... horsepower. She was probly one of them
 

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Gotta remember that they're all women, right? You'll get used to it. We all have to.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yes and what you said makes me think the girl you were talking with also might of had Histrionic Personality Disorder...

1. her head wasn't really there
2. like I was talking to a shell or a person
3. she seemed very childish and aloof.
4. I just thought maybe she's kind of different, but now that I think of it more, her whole presense seems very odd.

Those are the main points why I think you may of been dealing with an HPD.

Then again it could just be ADD unless she had a ton of guy "friends" always seeming to be in the background?
 

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i have 'spells' all the time, i get kinda spacey and zoned out.
I took alot of drugs in the past, so i may have holes in my brain ,
who knows. I also notice that it might have came about from
being in my head soo much that it became soo easy to slip
back into that state, and hence 'not be really all there'.

One of the drawbacks of being introverted, but the
thing is when i am in that state, my senses are heightened
and i can see and 'feel' everything, maybe that's why i am
soo in tune with unconcious body language cues and attraction
signals...
you know that groggy feeling when you wake up
to use the bathroom and you're not really asleep and not
really awake? or when you go to bed and right before you
go to sleep your mind wanders and you can vividly 'see'
thoughts in your mind? that's how the 'spells' feel like.

just out of curiousity , did that girl ever just stare at you
when you spoke to her? like no one is really there huh?..
creepy :confused:
 

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Yeah I know what you mean. Almost as if she doesn't have the mind capacity to stay connected to the conversation. They are aggrevating to really bother giving a shyt about. I suggest doing things to test her. Say shyt just to see how/if she reacts. If you end up punishing it afterall, it's an added bonus.
 

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yes, i lived with her for 2yrs as a matter of fact. she had BPD.

hell on earth, man.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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