"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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have you ever dated a girl who wasn't all there?

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I was thinking of this girl I dated a few months back, and in hindsight it seemed like her head wasn't really there...like I was talking to a shell or a person who's hypnotized.

I mean she talked to me in conversations, but she seemed very childish and aloof. I don't know if she took drugs before or something. At the time of dating, I didn't notice anything, I just thought maybe she's kind of different, but now that I think of it more, her whole presense seems very odd. Has anyone had similar experiences?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Their was a girl I used to work with that had the same symptoms.
She would just seem uncomfortable ALL the time around ANYONE, not just me.

Come to find out she had in the past experiences with crystal meth...so yea their all on drugs. Simply put
 

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Some PEOPLE (not just girls) simply are lacking in ... um... horsepower. She was probly one of them
 

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Gotta remember that they're all women, right? You'll get used to it. We all have to.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yes and what you said makes me think the girl you were talking with also might of had Histrionic Personality Disorder...

1. her head wasn't really there
2. like I was talking to a shell or a person
3. she seemed very childish and aloof.
4. I just thought maybe she's kind of different, but now that I think of it more, her whole presense seems very odd.

Those are the main points why I think you may of been dealing with an HPD.

Then again it could just be ADD unless she had a ton of guy "friends" always seeming to be in the background?
 

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i have 'spells' all the time, i get kinda spacey and zoned out.
I took alot of drugs in the past, so i may have holes in my brain ,
who knows. I also notice that it might have came about from
being in my head soo much that it became soo easy to slip
back into that state, and hence 'not be really all there'.

One of the drawbacks of being introverted, but the
thing is when i am in that state, my senses are heightened
and i can see and 'feel' everything, maybe that's why i am
soo in tune with unconcious body language cues and attraction
signals...
you know that groggy feeling when you wake up
to use the bathroom and you're not really asleep and not
really awake? or when you go to bed and right before you
go to sleep your mind wanders and you can vividly 'see'
thoughts in your mind? that's how the 'spells' feel like.

just out of curiousity , did that girl ever just stare at you
when you spoke to her? like no one is really there huh?..
creepy :confused:
 

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Yeah I know what you mean. Almost as if she doesn't have the mind capacity to stay connected to the conversation. They are aggrevating to really bother giving a shyt about. I suggest doing things to test her. Say shyt just to see how/if she reacts. If you end up punishing it afterall, it's an added bonus.
 

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yes, i lived with her for 2yrs as a matter of fact. she had BPD.

hell on earth, man.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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