"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Have you encountered this?

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I make weekly plasma donations at a local clinic and get paid for it. I met a fine looking black girl there the other day and we conversed for about 10-15 minutes. She showed signs of high interest (laughter, lots of eye contact, smiles, etc).

She asked me what I was doing this weekend and wanted my number. I gave it to her and asked for hers.

After I gave her my number, I asked for hers. She stated that Sprint shut off her phone and she gave me her friend's number. Said that she is usually always with her friend.

Well ok, I guess that makes some sense.

Anyways, as I was leaving, she was giving blood plasma. She waved goodbye and said she'd call me.

That was Thursday. Now it is 10pm on a Saturday night and I still never got a call from her. Oh well, time to hit up some parties tonight :)

I got up at 12pm and called her friend's number and her friend picked up. I told her the whole deal and her friend said she tell her that I'd call.

A good friend of mine told me to just not bother calling her again but instead wait and talk to her the next time I see her at the plasma donation center.

I thought that was a good piece of advice. No need to harass or annoy a friend of a potential friend.

Honestly, have any of you dudes ever had this sort of scenario happen to you?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Maybe she was busy or lost your number who knows. She wouldn't ask for your number if she wasn't interested.
 

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Certain chicks love to exchange phone numbers with guys they aren't interested in.

My theory is that these chicks do it to prove to themselves they are still desirable to men and by having a bunch of random male phone numbers what better proof could there be of this than that?
 

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Yea that sounds kind of crazy.
If she really is going to get with you, she will contact you.

Like you said, time to hit up some parties, there are other girls that aren't going to be sheisty like that.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Hmmm...

I am not sure.

Honestly I don't think it makes a lot of sense. If she were just getting my number for some sort of ego boost, she wouldn't have been acting so interested unless she has some serious problems. I'm just going to wait it out and talk to her at the plasma donation center on Tuesday. Act like nothing happened and just plan something face to face.
 

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MagnuM said:
A good friend of mine told me to just not bother calling her again but instead wait and talk to her the next time I see her at the plasma donation center.

I thought that was a good piece of advice. No need to harass or annoy a friend of a potential friend.
exactly. sounds like there is good potential there. no need to rush.
 

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I'm pretty sure there is an explanation for this. I am thinking realistically. They say females are pretty emo blah blah and quite insecure, so maybe I am just a really good looking guy that this black girl maybe be nervous about. I'm not sure.

But I'd like to believe that she digs me. I'd rather stay on that side of the fence than being a cynic like the first two posts.

My friend does know what he is talking about. I actually called him and got advice.
 

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Have you ever asked for a girl's number and just forgot about calling her, or didn't call her for some other reason? I know I have, plenty of times.
 

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Have you ever asked for a girl's number and just forgot about calling her, or didn't call her for some other reason? I know I have, plenty of times.
right, but it usually means your not particularly interested...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tsmith2334 said:
right, but it usually means your not particularly interested...
i'm just curious. have any of you guys ever encountered this sort of situation? the was my main question.
 

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MagnuM said:
i'm just curious. have any of you guys ever encountered this sort of situation? the was my main question.
it just may have not been "your weekend"... there is still plent of time to develop something... i've had girls cancel on me or ignore calls and hung out with them at a later date
 

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tsmith2334 said:
it just may have not been "your weekend"... there is still plent of time to develop something... i've had girls cancel on me or ignore calls and hung out with them at a later date
never had anything actually planned. lol
 

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gonna make plans right after i talk to her. maybe ice cream or coffee. then maybe some hot coffee somewhere down the line if things work out alright.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dude, I know that clinic. It's crackhead central. There are better places to meet women. I date some black girls, too, but I meet them on-campus, not at the plasma clinic. No, they're not all crackheads, but just be wary of the people you meet there. Don't expect anything of them.

This is a good example of why is it bad to give out a number, then we as guys end up sitting around like a woman wondering if the phone will ring. I know circumstances worked against you here, but some guys make a rule to never give out their number, and I can see why. I throws the dynamic off.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Dude, I know that clinic. It's crackhead central. There are better places to meet women. I date some black girls, too, but I meet them on-campus, not at the plasma clinic. No, they're not all crackheads, but just be wary of the people you meet there. Don't expect anything of them.

This is a good example of why is it bad to give out a number, then we as guys end up sitting around like a woman wondering if the phone will ring. I know circumstances worked against you here, but some guys make a rule to never give out their number, and I can see why. I throws the dynamic off.
There are a few shady disgusting people there, but most of the people who donate are merely students. Not crackheads!
 

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MagnuM said:
Honestly, have any of you dudes ever had this sort of scenario happen to you?
Yeah its called being option B.

Let me explain something to you: you are really into this girl right?! if it was up to you you would call her the same night and talk to her and would want to meet her sooner rather then later.

This girl is taking her sweet time to get back to you and is not in a hurry or worry that you would lose interest or catch the eye of another girl. Does this sound like a girl with high interest to you???!! No. There is your answer.
 
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