Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Have to laugh how this girl claims to like me now that some guy played her

Kal0051

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This is some girl I met a few months ago. I eventually grew to like her but she got distant and contact between us died off (other than the occasional IM). Anyway, get to talking with her today, apparently she got played but she now claims to still like me (say what?).

I'm pretty much done with this chick, but because I'm wondering if what she said was true I told her to call me (not expecting her to at all but whatever). I still do like her although her crap has pissed me off a bit in the last month.

Just don't understand this chick at all (since I judge people by their actions and not their words).
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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if she doesnt call - you can bet her interest is low.

id not want to get a girl who picked adifferent guy, got hurt and is now tryng to come back...

**** that!
 

Kal0051

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returningchamp said:
if she doesnt call - you can bet her interest is low.

id not want to get a girl who picked adifferent guy, got hurt and is now tryng to come back...

**** that!
lol, that's pretty much my thoughts exactly, I just told her to call me for kicks, and who knows, I might get a lay out of it
 

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If she's up for it now, why not play her a little bit urself?
 

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trv26 said:
If she's up for it now, why not play her a little bit urself?
well, I don't want to be a jackass. Idk, she seems a bit messed up, maybe if she got her **** together and I'm not in a relationship then we'll see. That's basically what I told her, but implied that if she takes too long I'll be gone.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kal0051 said:
well, I don't want to be a jackass. Idk, she seems a bit messed up, maybe if she got her **** together and I'm not in a relationship then we'll see. That's basically what I told her, but implied that if she takes too long I'll be gone.

you have the AFC mindset

start thinking like a player, and women will fall into your lap

oh, you'll actually be HAPPY too, I don't know if that is important to you or not
 

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Mr. Obvious said:
you have the AFC mindset

start thinking like a player, and women will fall into your lap

oh, you'll actually be HAPPY too, I don't know if that is important to you or not
who said I'm not happy? Actually I'm quite happy, happier than I've been for a long time.

When you say think like a player I'm assuming you mean to spin plates rather than use girls and leave them broken, right? I am spinning plates (have a date tomorrow night with this girl I met last week), I think that's why she left the first time, she wanted a relationship and I just wanted to casually date.

I don't like using girls mainly because I know what it's like to be used and truthfully I'm just a good guy (but not nice guy, there's a difference). So why would I do to this girl what every other guy has done to her, just to satisfy my own ego?

The reason I'd rather her get her **** together is I don't want a chick in my life that's gonna cause me any headaches, and right now that what she'll cause me. But I didn't want her to think that I'm gonna be some loser that's gonna want forever for some girl (I've done that back in my afc days and I regret it, missed so many opportunities).
 
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