"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Have to laugh how this girl claims to like me now that some guy played her

Kal0051

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This is some girl I met a few months ago. I eventually grew to like her but she got distant and contact between us died off (other than the occasional IM). Anyway, get to talking with her today, apparently she got played but she now claims to still like me (say what?).

I'm pretty much done with this chick, but because I'm wondering if what she said was true I told her to call me (not expecting her to at all but whatever). I still do like her although her crap has pissed me off a bit in the last month.

Just don't understand this chick at all (since I judge people by their actions and not their words).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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if she doesnt call - you can bet her interest is low.

id not want to get a girl who picked adifferent guy, got hurt and is now tryng to come back...

**** that!
 

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returningchamp said:
if she doesnt call - you can bet her interest is low.

id not want to get a girl who picked adifferent guy, got hurt and is now tryng to come back...

**** that!
lol, that's pretty much my thoughts exactly, I just told her to call me for kicks, and who knows, I might get a lay out of it
 

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If she's up for it now, why not play her a little bit urself?
 

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trv26 said:
If she's up for it now, why not play her a little bit urself?
well, I don't want to be a jackass. Idk, she seems a bit messed up, maybe if she got her **** together and I'm not in a relationship then we'll see. That's basically what I told her, but implied that if she takes too long I'll be gone.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Kal0051 said:
well, I don't want to be a jackass. Idk, she seems a bit messed up, maybe if she got her **** together and I'm not in a relationship then we'll see. That's basically what I told her, but implied that if she takes too long I'll be gone.

you have the AFC mindset

start thinking like a player, and women will fall into your lap

oh, you'll actually be HAPPY too, I don't know if that is important to you or not
 

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Mr. Obvious said:
you have the AFC mindset

start thinking like a player, and women will fall into your lap

oh, you'll actually be HAPPY too, I don't know if that is important to you or not
who said I'm not happy? Actually I'm quite happy, happier than I've been for a long time.

When you say think like a player I'm assuming you mean to spin plates rather than use girls and leave them broken, right? I am spinning plates (have a date tomorrow night with this girl I met last week), I think that's why she left the first time, she wanted a relationship and I just wanted to casually date.

I don't like using girls mainly because I know what it's like to be used and truthfully I'm just a good guy (but not nice guy, there's a difference). So why would I do to this girl what every other guy has done to her, just to satisfy my own ego?

The reason I'd rather her get her **** together is I don't want a chick in my life that's gonna cause me any headaches, and right now that what she'll cause me. But I didn't want her to think that I'm gonna be some loser that's gonna want forever for some girl (I've done that back in my afc days and I regret it, missed so many opportunities).
 
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