"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Have the attitude, how do I harness it and then apply it?

noUGsplease

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After enough convincing (mainly from seeing first hand enough times how non-UG women are full of sh*t and can't be taken seriously) I've rid myself of my nice guy/romantic fantasies, and I look at women the same way I'd look at a man...actually less...at least a man tells you exactly where he stands, win, lose, or draw.

Inside, I'm not a nice person, unless you're a family member or a proven commodity (close friend that has stood the test of time and the like.) But on the outside, I still come off as a "nice guy." Part of that is my physical appearance...my face just looks youthful and not masculine (my body is athletic, I work out frequently, but you can't really tell unless I have my shirt off.)

I'm trying to find a balance when talking with women where I'm kind of the way Richard Gere is in the movies...kind of like "Wow he can see right through me and he knows he has me even before I know he does." I'm trying to come off as more self-assured around women, without being a prick, but just being a man.

I have no idea how to apply this. I'm sure women can sense already that I no longer have them on a pedestal just by the way I look at them (or don't look at them) but I still see occasional women that make fun of me for my appearance (I have a really nerdy looking face.)

I'm also looking to avoid feelings of attachment. No matter how much you know deep down how poisonous it is, when you're talking to a woman, and she likes you and wants you to sleep with her, it can make you feel really good. I'm looking to keep an even keel and just treat it like any other thing.

I fear that my inexperience with dealing with sex will turn me into one of those guys that mistakes sex for love.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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kingsam

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you need to get rid of your low value (loser/wussy/afc/choad/beta) male sub-communications
 
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