"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Have the attitude, how do I harness it and then apply it?

noUGsplease

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After enough convincing (mainly from seeing first hand enough times how non-UG women are full of sh*t and can't be taken seriously) I've rid myself of my nice guy/romantic fantasies, and I look at women the same way I'd look at a man...actually less...at least a man tells you exactly where he stands, win, lose, or draw.

Inside, I'm not a nice person, unless you're a family member or a proven commodity (close friend that has stood the test of time and the like.) But on the outside, I still come off as a "nice guy." Part of that is my physical appearance...my face just looks youthful and not masculine (my body is athletic, I work out frequently, but you can't really tell unless I have my shirt off.)

I'm trying to find a balance when talking with women where I'm kind of the way Richard Gere is in the movies...kind of like "Wow he can see right through me and he knows he has me even before I know he does." I'm trying to come off as more self-assured around women, without being a prick, but just being a man.

I have no idea how to apply this. I'm sure women can sense already that I no longer have them on a pedestal just by the way I look at them (or don't look at them) but I still see occasional women that make fun of me for my appearance (I have a really nerdy looking face.)

I'm also looking to avoid feelings of attachment. No matter how much you know deep down how poisonous it is, when you're talking to a woman, and she likes you and wants you to sleep with her, it can make you feel really good. I'm looking to keep an even keel and just treat it like any other thing.

I fear that my inexperience with dealing with sex will turn me into one of those guys that mistakes sex for love.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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kingsam

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you need to get rid of your low value (loser/wussy/afc/choad/beta) male sub-communications
 
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