"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Have kids, but want more?

ThisNThat

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I've been meeting some single moms, some over 40...that say they have children, but still want more. Don't they realize that most men her age likely already have kids, and don't want more?

What's this obsession with having kids at an older age? Don't they realize that being an AARP qualified member and being the only 55 year old with a parent picking up their 10 year old from soccer practice kind of makes you a stand-out among the 20 and 30-something parents?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Von

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Maybe its to lure you in

Her: I have kids
You: Nice
Her: I want more
You: I want kids too
Her: Let's LTR

I know some women (with kids) who after divorce, they started dating again and the guy said ''having kids'' was a condition to LTR.
So they likely 1) Like kids 2) Wanna make sure to get in a LTR with a family guy
 

backseatjuan

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Do not enter relationship with a single mom, children should only be your own. Leave the luggage carrying part to champs, you are 5% of men, you got better things to do with your life.

These women who over 35 years old don't realize that their ship has already sailed away. They'll do anything to get on board. But on my boat there is a party with top notch models 30 years and younger, no children allowed.
 

ThisNThat

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Do not enter relationship with a single mom, children should only be your own. Leave the luggage carrying part to champs, you are 5% of men, you got better things to do with your life.

These women who over 35 years old don't realize that their ship has already sailed away. They'll do anything to get on board. But on my boat there is a party with top notch models 30 years and younger, no children allowed.
Well, I'm at an age where most women DO have kids, so I am open to dating them...if her kids are in the older age bracket, ie high school....but the topic here is about women wanting kids after 40. The last woman I dated called things off with me and her last 40-something boyfriend because we didn't want kids.

I mean, duh...what 40-something dude is going to want to have children...because they've usually already had children.
 

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You're 32, at your age I dated 23 year old. There are women without children. Plus you got everything wrong, the older the child the worst the relationship. If you have to settle it goes down as priority like so:

1. no children
2. child younger than 4 years old ----------- \
3. older child ----------------------------------> relationships don't work out
4. several children -------------------------- /

Don't be a champ, and don't consider women with children, that's the best advice you'll ever get on this forum.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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