updated--Have I waited too long or just long enough?
Lately I have been introduced to this friend of a friend that I have a great chemistry with. She goes to this hair design school and asked me to come in to be one of her clients (they need a certain number to pass or something). Anyhow while I am there filling out my name and such I notice this attractive female staring at me like she knows me or something. I even thought she smiled. Things went well with the target but things just sorta never developed...not to say that thye wont cause I still dig her and I think she digs me.
Anyway, two months later I am walking through a club and attractive girl who was gazing at me stops me. She tells me she and her friends are in the wrong club (it was a European kind of spot, which isnt my scene either). She asks me if I can recommend any other places. Right there I am thinking she just ran a line on me....cause I have used that one before.
I show little interest cause while this girl is crazy hot I still have the original target on the mind. This new girl then follows up with how she remembers me from the school about 3 months ago, telling me how she had her hair different and everything. I played dumb and didnt recall. With no effort we end up hanging out all night during which she intorduces herself, reveals her background, where she lives (alone, close to me), and the fact that she is single (right after some lame dude tries to pick her up, she tells me thats why she is single.) She also reveals how she has seen me on the street many times too.
She asks me if I use msn and writes her email out for me, asks me to add her. Again...this comes across as a kind of aggressive 'sarg' type of move, no? I was feeling kind of ill that night and not sure if I wanted to target two girls from the same class...so I bounced and sort of left her there, hopefully wanting more. I added her like 5 days later...it just wasnt that big a deal to me at the time.
When I do add her she gets right at me and we talk for like 30 minutes...and that's with me keeping it short. By second convo she is sending me pics voluntarily to show me her new hair style (flirting?) She also puts herself on webcam and shows me her new dogs. The whole time I am negging the runts she is "LOLing" on camera for me to see...my interest is growing and basically the girl is a 9/10...I have just been too blind to see it the whole time.
Careful to make sure i send signals of interest, I try the e-date thing and ask her to hang out while on msn. She says sure and lets see how the day goes. I dont see her again online that day or for several days so I freeze her and block her for a few more days. I shoulda went straight for the number!
I end up running in to her on the street about a week later...she actually yells at me from across an intersection. She introduces me to her friend. Apparently my social proof is high as she brags about me and my job etc...
I see them all at a club that night and the first thing girl does is put her hands through my hair, complimenting me. I do the same to her and she has no problem. I was with some people so I didnt have time to stay with her too long but over the course of the night she gets hit on like 20 times but whenever I touch her she comes right to me. I lose her at the end of the night...next day she tells me all her friends were busy with people so she went home alone. I told her I would have split a cab with her cause we live close (trying to escalate) but I didnt have her number. She gives it right to me...
I am determined to take this to the phones so I wait a couple of days to call but before I get the chance, she sees me on the street driving by and she honks at me and waves. It it safe to say she digs me? Apparently she told a coworker who also tried to game her that she thinks I am cute. BAsed on her actions I think she means in the attractive way???
All signs appear to be positive except for that hang out debacle. Have I shown her enough interest? I know I have the mystery game down (I have negged, been unavailable, yet kino-ed her like crazy when able).
I intend to ask her out NOW but I wonder if that first move should be a subtle thing or an all-out date....it has been 6 weeks since we met. I don't want to send friend signals at all. My interest in her is starting to grow which is how I like it...
I know all of what i wrote seems fine but I dont want to end up courting her. i think I should know off one date if this is gonna escalate because I think she is (or was) interested big time. Should I go formal date or no?
Lately I have been introduced to this friend of a friend that I have a great chemistry with. She goes to this hair design school and asked me to come in to be one of her clients (they need a certain number to pass or something). Anyhow while I am there filling out my name and such I notice this attractive female staring at me like she knows me or something. I even thought she smiled. Things went well with the target but things just sorta never developed...not to say that thye wont cause I still dig her and I think she digs me.
Anyway, two months later I am walking through a club and attractive girl who was gazing at me stops me. She tells me she and her friends are in the wrong club (it was a European kind of spot, which isnt my scene either). She asks me if I can recommend any other places. Right there I am thinking she just ran a line on me....cause I have used that one before.
I show little interest cause while this girl is crazy hot I still have the original target on the mind. This new girl then follows up with how she remembers me from the school about 3 months ago, telling me how she had her hair different and everything. I played dumb and didnt recall. With no effort we end up hanging out all night during which she intorduces herself, reveals her background, where she lives (alone, close to me), and the fact that she is single (right after some lame dude tries to pick her up, she tells me thats why she is single.) She also reveals how she has seen me on the street many times too.
She asks me if I use msn and writes her email out for me, asks me to add her. Again...this comes across as a kind of aggressive 'sarg' type of move, no? I was feeling kind of ill that night and not sure if I wanted to target two girls from the same class...so I bounced and sort of left her there, hopefully wanting more. I added her like 5 days later...it just wasnt that big a deal to me at the time.
When I do add her she gets right at me and we talk for like 30 minutes...and that's with me keeping it short. By second convo she is sending me pics voluntarily to show me her new hair style (flirting?) She also puts herself on webcam and shows me her new dogs. The whole time I am negging the runts she is "LOLing" on camera for me to see...my interest is growing and basically the girl is a 9/10...I have just been too blind to see it the whole time.
Careful to make sure i send signals of interest, I try the e-date thing and ask her to hang out while on msn. She says sure and lets see how the day goes. I dont see her again online that day or for several days so I freeze her and block her for a few more days. I shoulda went straight for the number!
I end up running in to her on the street about a week later...she actually yells at me from across an intersection. She introduces me to her friend. Apparently my social proof is high as she brags about me and my job etc...
I see them all at a club that night and the first thing girl does is put her hands through my hair, complimenting me. I do the same to her and she has no problem. I was with some people so I didnt have time to stay with her too long but over the course of the night she gets hit on like 20 times but whenever I touch her she comes right to me. I lose her at the end of the night...next day she tells me all her friends were busy with people so she went home alone. I told her I would have split a cab with her cause we live close (trying to escalate) but I didnt have her number. She gives it right to me...
I am determined to take this to the phones so I wait a couple of days to call but before I get the chance, she sees me on the street driving by and she honks at me and waves. It it safe to say she digs me? Apparently she told a coworker who also tried to game her that she thinks I am cute. BAsed on her actions I think she means in the attractive way???
All signs appear to be positive except for that hang out debacle. Have I shown her enough interest? I know I have the mystery game down (I have negged, been unavailable, yet kino-ed her like crazy when able).
I intend to ask her out NOW but I wonder if that first move should be a subtle thing or an all-out date....it has been 6 weeks since we met. I don't want to send friend signals at all. My interest in her is starting to grow which is how I like it...
I know all of what i wrote seems fine but I dont want to end up courting her. i think I should know off one date if this is gonna escalate because I think she is (or was) interested big time. Should I go formal date or no?
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