Have I met my match?

[woolmagnet]

Ok guys I have always considered myself well versed at having game and not losing control. I met this girl online and we hit it off. She lives in chicago and i live in atlanta. We are both married and interviewing other people to have an affair with. Both of us lack intimacy in our marriage but neither want to break up a family. We both realize what we are doing isn't right but neither want our kids to live without both parents. Its a bull**** situation to begin with. Anyways we met 2 weeks ago and went on a dinner date. Nothing happened sexually because we both want to make sure we have the right one before we get involved. Since the date we have spoken every day except the last two. She has asked me many of times when she could see me again and she seems really into me. I know this week she is meeting up with another guy and this was planned for sometime. She told me she was going to end it with him this week. I can't tell if she has flaked on me which would be hard to understand based on all our recent conversations or she is still testing me to see if and when I plan on coming to see her. Any advice is appreciated.

 

[MacAvoy]

I don't see how you've met your match? She's nothing special, just a girl who has interest in you. No big deal. Just run with it but be very careful, I wouldn't talk to her everyday, that will only lead to trouble.

If your going to have an extra marital affair, just meet each other's physical needs. It will only get ugly if too many feelings get involved. Thats why its perfect if she's also married.

 

[woolmagnet]

macavoy-thanks for the advice. I agree we talked

too much and she was more into me than i was.Not sure if she is testing me or not because I haven't commited to a time when i can see her again. She is smokin like georgia asphalt which is good and bad. Could she be laying it on me oneday and flake because we talk too much? Or is she pissed that I am not begging to see her. Chicks are ****ed up but I love them!

 

[MacAvoy]

Early on in the relationship, your going to have to make time for her to build attraction. This is essential in the first month, after that you can slow it down a bit, you don't want to be raising too many concerns at home.

Don't make the classic mistake of buying your wife flowers because you started an affair, its the first sign to them something is up.

ps I'm suprised the morality police havent jumped all over us yet.

 

[woolmagnet]

spoken like a tru adulterer> lol Question for you-

If i decide that she is playing or testing me should i give her an ultimatum. Like this-What you see is what you get. If you are interested in me over the other guys i am interested. Call me and we can work something out. I am used to being number one and except no less. I have a beautiful wife at home and i don't need anymore drama in my life. review your candidates and get back to me if you what to spend time together. if not i wish you the best and enjoyed our conversation.

 

[woolmagnet]

spoken like a tru adulterer> lol Question for you-

If i decide that she is playing or testing me should i give her an ultimatum. Like this-What you see is what you get. If you are interested in me over the other guys i am interested. Call me and we can work something out. I am used to being number one and except no less. I have a beautiful wife at home and i don't need anymore drama in my life. review your candidates and get back to me if you what to spend time together. if not i wish you the best and enjoyed our conversation.

 

[MacAvoy]

If she sees this third guy, who cares even better for you. As you said in your previous post, you haven't had enough time for her, but if your the one rocking her world, then she'll always come back to you. Don't do ultimatums, they are childs play and lead to the end of a relationship.

If you don't like the way she its going, then simply move on. If she is truly interested in you, she'll beg for another chance and change her ways. But she's only a mistress, so don't waste too much energy on her, however lay the ground rules for the relationship.

However you've already crossed them by talking too much but thats easily fixed.

 

[woolmagnet]

macavoy- you give good advice. So the last e-mail

yesterday hasn't been returned yet and she was propmt before. Whats the next move? I am not kidding this girl was into me big just the other day. Is she playing the game? What do you recommend. Advice is alot easier to give than to receive. Thanks

 

[MacAvoy]

Wait for her to come to you, you are the prize, your busy. You don't sit around and think about what one women is doing, you have a life. She's likely playing the game or she could be out of town on business or her husband could have had an emerengy. She's not at your beck & call, she's married.

 

[woolmagnet]

thanks for the advice. When she calls should i pretend

that nothing is wrong. just happy go lucky?

 

[collalife]

honestly just fu*ck her once or twice and keep it pushing. this will only be a fence in front of your family's face. youll have to climb it every time you have the affair but thats not the hard part its waiting till your family blinks. well you know what i mean.

JUSTF*UCK HER.

 

[Mavrick]

Maybe you should work on our marriage and stop chasing tail.

 

[MacAvoy]

that nothing is wrong. just happy go lucky?

yes

Maybe you should work on our marriage and stop chasing tail.

and the morality police have arrived.

 

[woolmagnet]

The morality police. LOL oh the ones whos wife

is ****ing someone else? Sorry i couldn't resist. I am all about being loyal but my wife doesn't enjoy sex that much anymore and i have three young boys that are my world and i don't want to break up a family.

 

[slowgold]

that nothing is wrong. just happy go lucky?

You won't even have to worry about it. I'm pretty sure that the guy she met after you was her pick.

First of all, if she was all that into you, she wouldn't have bothered with the guy after you.

Secondly, she didn't return your email right away like she was before.

You've been rejected. It's as plain as day to me.

 

[woolmagnet]

Slowgold-I will keep you posted. I beg to disagree but

we shall see soon enough. I have known about the other guy since i first met her. As mentioned above she told me last week that she was meeting him to call it off. Sure it could be bull**** but she offered the info and she knows I have a couple others in mind also. As far as not answering my e-mail you might be correct or maybe she is just mad that I haven't succumb to her magical powers by telling her I will come to chicago right away. She very well could be testing me. I am concerned but can't see how she could do a 360 in a matter of days, Maybe she is or isn't meeting the guy. I don't know if she went through with it or not. I will keep you posted since you seem so concerned.

 

[slowgold]

we shall see soon enough. I have known about the other guy since i first met her. As mentioned above she told me last week that she was meeting him to call it off. Sure it could be bull**** but she offered the info and she knows I have a couple others in mind also. As far as not answering my e-mail you might be correct or maybe she is just mad that I haven't succumb to her magical powers by telling her I will come to chicago right away. She very well could be testing me. I am concerned but can't see how she could do a 360 in a matter of days, Maybe she is or isn't meeting the guy. I don't know if she went through with it or not. I will keep you posted since you seem so concerned.

I don't really think there was another guy. I think that was a story to cover her ass in case you weren't attractive to her. After that, she was just trying to be polite to you.

The 360 thing tells me she wasn't really attracted to you though. Actions say it all. Never mind what she told you. A married woman just looking for an affair wouldn't be into any kind of game of playing hard to get. If she wanted you, she would have answered your email right away.

 

[woolmagnet]

Slow- We have been talking and e-mailing ever since

we actually met which her response was you are way more attractive in person. Now maybe she thinks we talked too much this last week. That is the question I have but she initiated it as much as me and I can't tell you how many times she asked me when I was coming back to see her. I appreciate your opinion but it seems you can't wait to give me bad news. We shall see.

 

[iqqi]

The morality police have been suspended.

OP, why are you waiting around for her to tell you what happened? Aren't you a man? Men are the pursuers. She has been asking when she can see you, you haven't replied to HER it seems.

Call her up, leave a message, or email her if thats what you do, and tell her you'd like to see her this ________. Simple as that. Take the lead, MAN.

If you were a chick, I'd say "he's just not that into you." Haha.

Oh yeah, too bad about your marriage.

 

[Mavrick]

and the morality police have arrived.

Morality is very important in life. It saves people from pain and hurt.

It would be better to end the marriage for the children than hold it together miserably. That's something to think about.