"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Have any of you ever felt this way?

weddingcrasher

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I dont know what it is but the past couple of days I've just been feeling diferent. I have a gf and were doin fine and everything seems so great but I feel as if im not good enough for her. I havnt done anything bad, or would I ever but I just have this feeling like she could do so much better. She will always compliment me on my looks but when im at home or somethin I think I look horrible, i want to like change my hair style or do something different but know I would regret it. I duno, I just feel weird and feel like im not good enough for her, in the looks category, even tho she compliments me and obviously there is some attraction to her, after a year i mean comon, i duno what it is, i just feel like shes the beauty and im the beast. Anyone ever felt this way before?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nemonin

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You meen she's the beast. lol. Don't think so lowly of yourself. If you consider yourself ugly, and you are...then what are you going to do. You can atleast make the best of it. You have a hot chick who thinks your hot...*insert problem here please*
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You have 2 options.

You can either keep bashing yourself and just admit your the luckiest guy in the world.
Or you can grab your balls and take her word that you look good and walk around like you know it.
 

brenbaus

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all I can say is W-T-F is wrong with you dude, if you think you are ugly, we dont really care, your gf is hot, so if you are happy with her then dont f*** up!
 

08aisaac

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Hey dude this just proves that looks have nothing to do with it. As long as you improve what you can, then there is nothing to worry about.
 

arutha

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Maybe it is simply your opinion of yourself and not others? You always judge yourself the harshest because you know your own body so you know every slight flaw.

I used to think I was pretty ugly, but so many girls have told me I'm hot now and interact with me that I kinda believe it. As gravstar said, accept it and believe it.
 

djaus111000

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just have confidence in yourself and know that she should be worrying if she deserves you,, not the other way around
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Best friends? NAY

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What does it matter if you're ugly. Theirs obviously something attracting her. As long as you don't express these feelings in ANY way when your around her you'll be fine. Remeber the dating game is never equal, you're just probaly not used to it being unequal in your favor.
And if your personality kicks major ass then your looks probaly don't matter much to her anyways.
 
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