"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonJuanabe

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Going back to a strategy I used about 10 years ago when I was dirt poor -- first date is... shooting hoops at a local outdoor bball court. Talk about inexpensive -- but fun! The opportunity for kino is there because most girls don't know how to shoot a basketball, but the primary motivation is keeping it active, light, and fun. I'm taking a page from Backbreaker and am there to shoot hoops and enjoy the nice day -- if the girl and I really click then that's bonus and perhaps we'll grab a bite to eat afterwards.

I need this after getting played by the last girl I went out with (admittedly I should have taken off the blinders because I had that gut feeling but wouldn't admit it to myself).

Will let you guys know how it goes.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Eternal_water

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Sounds like a good idea actually,

its not generic ie. dinner + movie, cinema, restaurant, bar, cafe

its genuinely fun

light hearted

active

cheap

and like you say great oppurtunities for kino

also get to show your skill at something and teach her
 

DonJuanabe

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Fun date but not interested -- lifestyles are too different. Damn was my A-game on. Kind of feel bad because she made it clear she wanted a second date.
 
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