"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hate my degree, going back to school for IT. Advice?

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Thought I'd update.

So I didn't go back to school. I completed a couple of certifications (A+, N+) and finally landed a job with a regional not-for-profit. I'm making the highest salary I've ever made, and actually about 4 dollars an hour more than what the Fortune 500 company I interviewed with had offered me. Im not making a fvk-ton of money, but definitely more than what I expected to get based on the comparable starting salaries for similar jobs with no professional IT experience.

I was actually surprised that a non-profit that gets a bulk of its money from federal grants, would actually pay more than a private sector job. What's even more surprising is that this is a job in the burbs, and similar jobs down in the city are really low-balling entry level IT professionals as well. Im talking like city companies offering 15$ an hr or less, which isn't terrible in some of the small suburban towns near me, but is definitely not great for a job in NYC.

The health benefits are decent, but not great. And the time-off is about on par with what federal employees get starting out. The company even offers education reimbursement, so I'll be taking advantage of that for more certifications and maybe even a Master's one day.

Anyways, the career change took me a little time, but I finally feel like I found my calling. Thanks to everyone who gave me some good advice in the thread.

EDIT - What really got me noticed by the hiring managers was my degree combined with my certs and technical aptitude. They said the college degree made me stand out. So I hope any men who ever read this post know the value that a good education can bring.

The best combo though is education, certs, and experience. I think I made it over the experience hurdle due to my personality and technical knowledge from years of working with computers (despite it not being professional experience.)
 
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Get a CDL, do a trade.... more rewarding and no women around. Do your IT on the weekend.

Oh its you Jaylan... lol. Also do that Security+, Linux and Ethical Hacker. I know a black guy down in Texas who is doing REALLY well with those certs.

Come to think of it, I have a friend who is working as a forklift driver, the guy CODES in his spare time. He wrote a program to help him do his work on the forklift. He went to Uni but I guess dropped midway cause he couldn't stand the leftist narrative everywhere. Anyway, he's a smart guy and I've been telling him to go apply for a programming position at his company. What small certs would help this guy? He probably won't listen to me but it would be nice to know.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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