"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hat or no hat?

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This may sound like a dumb question but does wearing a hat make you look more seductive/mysterious? And would it be beneficial in anyway? Im talking about wearing it normal (fowards) with it a bit over your eyes.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It can make you stand out from the herd, like a mild form of peacocking. Nowadays when its not the standard to wear hats its a bit like a statement, and its has a masculine old school aura to it, unlike some forms of metrosexual douchebaggery some guys use to stand out.
 

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Radharc said:
It can make you stand out from the herd, like a mild form of peacocking. Nowadays when its not the standard to wear hats its a bit like a statement, and its has a masculine old school aura to it, unlike some forms of metrosexual douchebaggery some guys use to stand out.

Oh lord....:rolleyes:
 

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if it fits the style/your style - ie hip hop style its ok

if its a fluffy cowboy hat like mystery method followers do = fu.cking retarded = and way too try hard

i knew a guy at uni who read The Game, and started wearing little wrist bands and some eye shaddow, he just look like a gay boy, and it never really got people opening him
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you can "peacock" much more sublty
eg
- wearing a red (ie different) shirt in a club when every one else is wearing black/white shirts (saw this on a clip of "keys to the VIP")
(on rsd some people have gone out in a "twighlight" movie t-shirt just coz its funny as f.uck - sefl amusement - and take balls and everyone is reacting to you) = DHV
- certain accessories (dont be like "ooo look at my REAL expensive watch" ...the quickest way to turn women off!)
- ripped body (dont seek validation for your guns, or be lame showign them off... be subtle about it.. like a t shirt that shows your physique but acting like your normal = alpha )
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It was just a random question guys lol and yea the hat looks good on me, simple as that.
 

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I realize you're just asking a simple question, and not trying to make a big deal out of it. But keep this in mind:

If you wear something you don't feel comfortable wearing (physically and mentally), that discomfort will manifest itself. You will convey that discomfort to the rest of the world. Also, the act of putting something on in order to impress someone else more than yourself is an act of neediness, which also manifests itself for all to see.
 

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Galactus said:
I realize you're just asking a simple question, and not trying to make a big deal out of it. But keep this in mind:

If you wear something you don't feel comfortable wearing (physically and mentally), that discomfort will manifest itself. You will convey that discomfort to the rest of the world. Also, the act of putting something on in order to impress someone else more than yourself is an act of neediness, which also manifests itself for all to see.
I cant agree more with that statement, thats basically the Law of Attraction right there. And also it was never to impress anyone. I was asking if wearing it a certain way makes it look more mysterious, simple lol.
 

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Hats tend to seem fairly pretentious or "try hard" to most people these days.

In fact, by coincindence, I seriously just wrote a guitar instrumental yesterday that I called, "Hats are Pretentious". Hey, you have to call it something. What kind of hat are you wearing?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Atom Smasher said:
Hats tend to seem fairly pretentious or "try hard" to most people these days.

In fact, by coincindence, I seriously just wrote a guitar instrumental yesterday that I called, "Hats are Pretentious". Hey, you have to call it something. What kind of hat are you wearing?
LOL That was pretty funny. I honestly just wear my hat because on certain days its easier then to do my hair. im wearing a hat like this

http://www.amazon.com/Giants-Basic-Brushed-Structured-Adjustable/dp/B0000DKNYY
 

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Oh, that's cool. I thought you were talking about one of those big dorky fedoras or something retarded like that.

That's not a hat, that's a cap.

I wear one sometimes when I'm out in the sun because I have a shaved head and sunburn sucks. The only downside to wearing a hat or cap of any kind, is that I know a lot of women think that if a guy is wearing one, it's because he has a bald spot. And quite often, that's true.
 

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Baseball hats are for baseball. If you have a problem with the sun get some sunglasses and a real hat.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Galactus said:
Oh, that's cool. I thought you were talking about one of those big dorky fedoras or something retarded like that.

That's not a hat, that's a cap.

I wear one sometimes when I'm out in the sun because I have a shaved head and sunburn sucks. The only downside to wearing a hat or cap of any kind, is that I know a lot of women think that if a guy is wearing one, it's because he has a bald spot. And quite often, that's true.
LOL No I would never wear old of those gay ass hats. Never even thought of that. Im the exact opposite, I have full head of hair thank god.

Baseball hats are for baseball. If you have a problem with the sun get some sunglasses and a real hat.
LOL and what do u consider a real hat?
 

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It's funny how hats have changed over the years. It looks like back in the day (30's, 40's) most men wore them (at least in big cities). Also in the late 1800s. Nowadays, every time I see a guy wearing a hat he looks kind of try-hard and douchey to me. Baseball or golf caps seem to not have that same stigma.

Yes, as I type this, I am fully aware that we (more accurately, I) are beating this simple subject to death. I gues it's because I just wrote my song, "Hats are Pretentious". I laughed out loud when I saw this post right after I penned my very last note of the song.
 

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Interesting...
While I'm looking around other threads, I'm getting ads for men's hats! Marketing has come a long way.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
It's funny how hats have changed over the years. It looks like back in the day (30's, 40's) most men wore them (at least in big cities). Also in the late 1800s. Nowadays, every time I see a guy wearing a hat he looks kind of try-hard and douchey to me. Baseball or golf caps seem to not have that same stigma.

Yes, as I type this, I am fully aware that we (more accurately, I) are beating this simple subject to death. I gues it's because I just wrote my song, "Hats are Pretentious". I laughed out loud when I saw this post right after I penned my very last note of the song.
Thats pretty funny bro, at first I thought u were joking about the hat song..now I see ur serious....and im still laughing, lol.
 

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Interesting...
While I'm looking around other threads, I'm getting ads for men's hats! Marketing has come a long way.
Fedora Hats. 10% off! Gotta love it. :crackup:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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