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everyone has. Hell you dont even have to be sad or depressed or hopeless, you can just want to end it randomly. But you keep pushing and fighting. One life man might as well see where it goes. Besides we all end up in the grave anyways.
The biggest red flag is stopping lifting because of perma poon. I see this a lot in Gen Z fellas. Lift until they get a girl and they **** off the sec of a gf. It's contrary to the girl getting a bad as dude when she gets duped. It don't end well. Usually breeds resentment.Yes man, I am very ready.
Just broke up with my kinda GF last month. started lifting again and seeing gains. Focusing on my music.
Just had a 3 night alcohol/coke binge tho because of my birthday/pubs open again but now it’s ready for detox and spiritual healing. Deep down I hate amphetamines and alcohol anyways but it’s easy to get sucked in. Anyways I got myself a shroom grow kit, time for the babies to grow. it’s gonna be a good summer.
Whenever I hear Rolo talk how he's saving lies I get LULZ. Saving cucks or betas who have really low T, so low they would cowardly kill themselves over a girl is the height of pathetic and stupidity. Good riddance. The gene pool is already full of morons. We don't need more.A girl really fvcked me up in the head once. I didn’t really know what to feel and suicide crossed the mind. I was younger then and was letting her own me just a bit, she was quite manipulative. I still loved her though, even after I realized she was manipulating me. No, she didn’t cheat or lie to me, but she had me dangling on a string. Ever since I’ve been very dominant and never let a woman take control of my feelings that way.
Everytime the grass needs mowed,... or someone at work calls and says "my computer is slow, what's wrong?" I think I should combine my problems together by running over the computers with the mower then crash the mover head on into a tree to do myself in, but I don't think the mower is fast enough.
Yes. In my younger days.
I stopped lifting long before I got with her though, I’d just been lazy overall. It’s incredible how much better you feel when you lift. It’s one of these things you just have to do in life as a man.The biggest red flag is stopping lifting because of perma poon. I see this a lot in Gen Z fellas. Lift until they get a girl and they **** off the sec of a gf. It's contrary to the girl getting a bad as dude when she gets duped. It don't end well. Usually breeds resentment.
From McKenna to strausman among others, SETTING IS HUGE. Environment too. A breakup and a coke bender likely isn't the best way to a breakthrough but to each their own.
Cops have it tough today man. If you're a good cop in cities like Seattle, Portland, New York etc.....it can be tough. My thoughts and prayers goes out to those guys.plenty of revenge killings on officers I meant. It's been on the rise and not surprisingly alongside the riots and crap.
Get back on the grind playboy. I know it's hard. there are tons of parks and hills to run. I am thinking about getting into hiking and cycling or rowing. it only gets harder with time. Less mobility. Less energy in elderly. The same motivation to lift blends into other areas of life. The alternative being cuckd. spectator mode. bench warmer.I stopped lifting long before I got with her though, I’d just been lazy overall. It’s incredible how much better you feel when you lift. It’s one of these things you just have to do in life as a man.
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When I was younger, like in my 20s and I knew I may have made some bad decisions or my life turned some sort of direction where I knew I was going to be screwed the rest of my life. However, I've long made peace with everything and my situation overall has improved compared to where I was in my 20s. I think this stuff hits you worst in your mid-twenties if you are not getting the momentum in life you are hoping for and you don't have a gf. Its that age where you either make it or break it for the rest of your life. I'm probably still paying for any bad decisions I made in my early 20s. As I got older then I got more stoic.
Very happy to know that you also got through that and went away from that abusive relationship with your mother! Congratulations!You were having a rough go a year or so ago. So pleased and happy you have progressed so well. I had a very emotionally cold narcissist mother. She never said “I love you” and she always said I was selfish (I was a child for crying out loud!) and she constantly said I would never amount to anything. If I failed at something she would gloat. Awful. But she herself was sexually abused and so she was legit fvcked up. There were times I thought of suicide. You bet. To escape and not feel that gnawing pain, the loneliness even in the company of others,
But like you I found the strength to bear up and get on with it. I developed in myself intrinsic self love. I relate ENTIRELY to the people pleasing behaviors. Like you are learning now I had to arrive at a place where I say No when that’s what I really want. I choose self respect and it feels good, solid to love myself in that way.
Also like you I seek connection in my relationships. Although I pick men who are scarred. I pick men with backgrounds similar to mine. These are damaged men with deep scars of their own. Those are often the ones who develop into players & playboys as a means of external validation. Narcissists themselves (which I am also accused of from time to time)...but in a way those are my people. And because we share similar wounds it creates deep bonds. Those are the men, screwed up as they are, who fall for me.
They don’t so much let me in as I recognize them for what they are. I see the deep pain & the wounds. I sneak into their soul before they realize I’m in. I healed myself and learned to love myself (as you are doing in your journey) and there is something in me that wants to help them learn to heal themselves. It is very difficult because often they are running from the pain.
Not realizing the only way to deal with it is to grapple with it.
I grapple with my pain. That is what life is. But I sleep well at night knowing I have loved myself and others each day. I am kind and do not hurl insults because I remember what it felt like to be invisible and be put down by my own mother. I cut her out of my life years ago. Best decision ever for me and for my children. Biggest HELL NO I ever said & did.
It has made me very very strong and resilient.
But I also find meaning in caring for others and in pouring myself out. It’s part of why I contribute here. It’s not about being a chick on a men’s forum. It’s about giving of myself for (hopefully) someone else’s benefit. It is part of what creates meaning in my own life. I try to give solid advice around here. I do my best in real life to be a great friend and good company. I love as unconditionally as I can (and that sometimes gets me in trouble) but I also tell the hard truths. That’s not always easy or pleasant. But
In the end all we have are the connections we build with others. Embrace it & love yourself.
I like what someone said about suicidal thoughts being a call to change. I find that resonates with a certain Truth. I needed to read that today.