jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Powerful media like the internet, books, and especially influencers have pushed us toward a healthier life. In this case, eliminating all sources of toxicity from our lives, especially toxic or narcissistic people. In this case, speaking as a man, we're told to be more selective, have a backbone, stop being nice guys, and not allow ourselves to be disrespected,.
I've personally tried applying this advice, and it's led me to narrow my social circle. I avoided toxic people and distanced myself from several people I already knew, gaining respect. In short, I was framing the world through my own lens, and I wasn't being disrespectful, but to be honest, doing this led me to be increasingly lonely, to see people negatively....infact, what we're taught is that toxic people always have arguments, conflicts, and don't respect boundaries. Therefore, if you're in a friendship, acquaintance, or romantic relationship with someone like that, you should say enough and end it.
The fact is, we'll all make mistakes and be a little disrespectful at times, and instead of focusing on the fact that there may be things we can't change, we're avoiding them. We're avoiding everything, wanting everything to be perfect...when in reality, I see that the world revolves around debate, about becoming masters of argument and compromise, about understanding how to argue and debate with others. In fact, everything the media tells us is "avoid."
Gaining respect from others means setting boundaries, and setting boundaries means avoiding compromise with anyone. This prevents us from being open to debate, argument, or compromise. This stop us from being "nice people". This leaves our lives devoid of compassion and humanity, and it makes us feel disconnected.
In these two years of trying to do this, this is how I've felt, worse than when I was actually around people who were a bit toxic but who knew how to compromise in the end.
I'm curious about hearing your experience out there about this
I've personally tried applying this advice, and it's led me to narrow my social circle. I avoided toxic people and distanced myself from several people I already knew, gaining respect. In short, I was framing the world through my own lens, and I wasn't being disrespectful, but to be honest, doing this led me to be increasingly lonely, to see people negatively....infact, what we're taught is that toxic people always have arguments, conflicts, and don't respect boundaries. Therefore, if you're in a friendship, acquaintance, or romantic relationship with someone like that, you should say enough and end it.
The fact is, we'll all make mistakes and be a little disrespectful at times, and instead of focusing on the fact that there may be things we can't change, we're avoiding them. We're avoiding everything, wanting everything to be perfect...when in reality, I see that the world revolves around debate, about becoming masters of argument and compromise, about understanding how to argue and debate with others. In fact, everything the media tells us is "avoid."
Gaining respect from others means setting boundaries, and setting boundaries means avoiding compromise with anyone. This prevents us from being open to debate, argument, or compromise. This stop us from being "nice people". This leaves our lives devoid of compassion and humanity, and it makes us feel disconnected.
In these two years of trying to do this, this is how I've felt, worse than when I was actually around people who were a bit toxic but who knew how to compromise in the end.
I'm curious about hearing your experience out there about this